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Tuesday, 25 February 2014

Values and Why They Are Important Part 3 Prioritizing and Affirming Your Own Values

Values and Why They Are Important Part 3 Prioritizing and Affirming Your Own Values

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 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home

This is third and last post in a short series on values. The first post considered what values and why are they important and the second post considered how to determine your own values.

Understanding your own values is key to leading a happy and fulfilled life.  Knowing them can guide you in deciding the work you want to do and even how you choose a life partner. Understanding them can help you deal with many of the challenges you will meet through life and how to make the best choice in different situations.

Prioritizing and Affirming Your Own Values

Prioritizing your top values is difficult. You need to look deep inside yourself and be very honest. But it is very important.

When you make a decision you may realise you are having to deal with different values and they may conflict - you will have to make a choice.  This is when you need to know which value is more important to you. Without clarity such a conflict can cause great unhappiness.

Write down your top values, not in any particular order. Then look at the first two values and ask yourself, "If I could satisfy only one of these, which would I choose?"

It might help to visualize a situation in which you would have to make a choice. For example, compare the values of service and stability. Imagine that you must decide whether to sell your house and risk moving to another country to do work that could just fulfil a long held ambition. Or you can stay in your present job with more limited opportunities but keep your house!   What would you decide?

Keep working through the list, by comparing each value with each of the rest, until your list is in the correct order.

You could use a Paired Comparison Analysis to help you. With this method, you decide which of two options is most important, and then assign a score to show how much more important it is.

It is so important to identify and prioritize your values that investing your time is definitely worth it.

Reaffirm your values

Check your top-priority values, and make sure they fit with your life and your vision for yourself.
  • Do these values make you feel good about yourself?
  • Are you proud of your top three values?
  • Would you be comfortable and proud to tell your values to people you respect and admire?
  • Do these values represent things you would support, even if your choice isn't popular,
When you consider your values in decision making, you will keep your sense of integrity. It increases your feeling of self worth and self confidence.

Making a value-based choice isn't always be easy. But it is usually the best way to happiness and peace of mind.

101334901_80_80Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com


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