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Thursday, 30 January 2014

Smile; you only get this moment once

Smile; you only get this moment once

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Smile; you’ll never get this moment again’ morbid yes, but so true. 

Circumstances change in the blink of an eye, from how you’re feeling to the outside no-control zone. I call outside factors this because no one can control some things that happen in life, they just do. 

We can view it either as making us stronger people (which it will) or go into the whole ‘Woe is me’ routine.

The no-control zone is just like worrying. It makes no difference; it doesn’t stop the bad things from happening; they will come either way. It’s just a fact of life. Bad things come to teach us lessons. That’s all they do. Although it may not feel like it at the time. 

We can both learn and strive to go forwards or stand still. 

I especially know it’s hard if your heart’s invested in something or someone when you think you can’t live without them, but please look in the mirror and congratulate yourself that you’ve made it to today. Your heart is much stronger than you know. And every minute, you are changing; your cells are developing, it won’t be obvious but as plants grow day by day, to reveal a flower in the summer, you are getting stronger. 

Change we can’t see is happening right now. 

Nothing that you do will have a massive impact on the world. Like I always say, you can only change the world little by little. Life works in small ways – so everything you do will have consequences and affect the eventual outcome. So though things may not happen immediately and they may take their time, everything will work out how it was meant to. You’ve just got to believe that. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 28 January 2014

Your Help is Needed

Your Help is Needed


Today, I'm seeking your help. 

I've been writing posts about job search on my Wisewolf Talking blog for about four years. That isn't all I write about on that particular blog but recently it has been a popular subject. So I've decided to bring all the research I've done to produce those posts into a new book about job search. 

I'm setting out my thoughts under six main headings: 
• Job search today and creating an overall job search strategy 
• Finding the right opportunities 
• Becoming a good candidate 
• Going through the recruitment process, with a detailed guide to managing interviews 
• Making a good start in the new role 
• Maintaining your confidence and self belief throughout 

What I need from you now please, are your thoughts on the advice you would welcome most in a book like this. 
• If you are looking for work, what is the nugget you would welcome? 
• If you are a recruiter, what is it you would like candidates to know that no one seems to tell them? 

There will be signed copies of the book for the three best suggestions and your contribution will be acknowledged in the book itself. 

While on the subject of Wisewolf Talking, it is interesting to see what the most popular posts turn out to be. Sometimes it can be a bit worrying. A post I wrote a while ago about handling a boss who feels jealous remains popular. So is the post I wrote this week about anger at work. The recession doesn’t seem to have generated a happier climate in the workplace. I’d be interested to hear what your experience has been. 

Remember to get in touch if you need help with your job search; I offer a trial free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype. 

I wish all those starting out on, or a continuing, a job search this week every success. 

Warm regards 

Wendy 
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Monday, 27 January 2014

How to deal with anger - a Guide from Mind

 How to deal with anger - a Guide from Mind

About anger

Many people have trouble managing their anger.
The guide at the link below is for anyone who wants to learn how to deal with it in a constructive and healthy way. It is also for anyone with a friend or family member who has problems with anger.

What is anger?

Feeling angry is part of being human. It is a natural response to being attacked, insulted, deceived or frustrated. Sometimes, excessive anger can also be a symptom of some mental health problems.

Here is the link to the guide - you can download a PDF


236419442_80_808Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Friday, 24 January 2014

Friday Feast - Cajun Shrimp and Sausage Jambalaya

Friday Feast - Cajun Shrimp and Sausage Jambalaya


In this video, Betty (of Betty's Kitchen) demonstrates how to make Shrimp and Sausage Jambalaya.

This is a spicy dish that is traditional to the Southern States of the USA.


Ingredients:

1 pound frozen white shrimp (31-40 count), thawed, de-veined, and shelled (Betty removes the tails, also.)
8 oz. andouille smoked sausage, cut into ½-inch slices (You may use any type of smoked sausage.)
1 small onion, chopped
¼ cup celery, diced
1 large green bell pepper, cut into chunks or strips
2 cloves of garlic, minced
14.5-oz. can diced tomatoes with garlic, basil, and oregano
14.5-oz can chicken broth
1 ¾ teaspoons Cajun seasoning (You may substitute Creole seasoning, or a blend of your own.)
¼ teaspoon ground red pepper
¾ cup uncooked long-grain white rice

Method


In a large skillet, saute smoked sausage over medium-high heat, until browned, about 3 to 5 minutes. Add 1 small chopped onion, ¼ cup diced celery, 1 large chopped green pepper, and 2 coves minced garlic. Saute 2 to 3 minutes. Add 14.5-oz. can diced tomatoes, 14.5-oz. can chicken broth, 1 ¾ teaspoons Cajun seasoning, and ¼ teaspoon ground red pepper. Bring to a boil, and stir in ¾ cup uncooked long-grain white rice. Cover and reduce heat to low. Simmer 25 to 30 minutes, or until the liquid is absorbed and the rice is cooked. Stir in 1 pound uncooked shrimp. Cook 3 to 5 minutes, or until shrimp turns pink and opaque. Ladle immediately into serving bowl, and serve. I served my Shrimp and Sausage Jambalaya with freshly-made Hot Water Corn Fritters. Delicious! I hope you enjoy this recipe! --Betty

Thursday, 23 January 2014

Feeling stressed? Learn to be present!


 is a Career Coach and Life Coach  helping you to solve difficult problems at work

Many of the great religions talk about the value of being able to sit quietly in the present. Sometimes this is a prelude to prayer – sometimes sitting in the present is the prayer or at perhaps a step on the way to enlightenment.  But only recently have we understood the psychological value of being wholly in the present, with or without the religion.

I work with clients who feel stressed. And being able to bring themselves wholly into the present can be a great help to them. Here is what I teach them to do.

My practice of presence!


Find yourself a quiet spot.  This can be a pleasant spot within your home, or somewhere quiet at work.  It is great if you can do the exercise out of doors in your garden or even on a park bench.  But you need somewhere where you can sit for a few minutes and not be disturbed.

 First, focus on your breathing. The way to do it is to breathe in and out slowly and in a regular rhythm.
  • ·         Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth slowly.
  • ·         Fill up the whole of your lungs with air, without forcing.
  • ·         Imagine you're filling up a bottle, so that your lungs fill from the bottom.
  • ·         Breathe in slowly and regularly counting from one to five (don’t worry if you can’t reach five at first).
  • ·         Then let the breath escape slowly, counting from one to five.
  • ·         Keep doing this until you feel calm.
  • ·         Breathe without pausing or holding your breath.

While you are doing this concentrate completely on your breathing – let the thought of your breath fill you heart and mind completely!

Then while breathing gently bring your focus out to the world about you concentrating fully on one sense at a time
  • ·         What can you hear? Really concentrate on those sounds.
  • ·         What can you feel? Feel the air as it touches your skin.
  • ·         What can you smell? If you fully concentrate you may be surprised.
  • ·         What can you taste? Has that smell brought a taste to your mouth perhaps.
  • ·         Now, what can you see? Concentrate fully on just one item in your surroundings. Really see it.

Next take your mind to your feet and feel them fully rooted to the  floor or ground beneath. Then, sense the earth itself beneath you. Sense yourself rooted and part of that earth!  If you wish you can rest there for a while, sensing the earth that supports you.

When you are ready, go back to your everyday day life, taking that sense of presence and support with you. 

With practice you will feel so full of the real presence around, you can be totally and completely yourself.


236419442_80_808 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Wednesday, 22 January 2014

One chance at life

One chance at life


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

If one bad happens in a day try not to let it affect the day’s productiveness. We’ve all had days when a bad thing happens first thing and the whole day is ruined because of it. But if you just refocus on the positive after the downfall – whatever it may be – you can turn a downward turn into an upward one. 

Everyone fails at something in their life – a mis-venture or makes a million mistakes – there’s no plain sailing in life, even if it looks to be on the surface. You can never really tell what’s on someone else’s mind unless they tell you. Nor what’s bubbling beneath the surface of a smile. So try to be kind.


One of my core beliefs is there is an opportunity in every situation and due to this, a positive. That’s why I have a single sticky note on my mirror in my bedroom asking ‘What’s the opportunity in this?’ 

It may be small, but there is an opportunity in every situation. Perhaps it’s only the opportunity to make it easier tomorrow or the opportunity to know what to do when/if it happens next time. There’s also a positive to be found. In everything you do. 

Yes that’s right. I said it. It is true. Even if you fail at something, it’ll teach you a lesson for the future, even if it isn’t relevant right now some good will come from it. Whether it’s just a lesson you keep in your memory that makes you stronger – or something that weaves itself into what you do with the rest of your life – like in my lyric writing or my How To Sundays (on my blog) where I have touched on being bullied at a young age and broken hearts. They’ve all helped me become who I am today. And I don’t regret one piece of it. They only made me stronger. And that’s what mistakes do too. 

You are never a failure. Do not ever let yourself feel like one. We are all human – we are all entitled to make mistakes. It’s a part of life. And that will never change (unless we all become robots and live perfectly – which wouldn’t be fun for anybody!)

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 21 January 2014

Ten Reasons Why Happiness is Important

Ten Reasons Why Happiness is Important



You might wonder why happiness is important. If you believe as I do that happiness is a choice and a skill that can be learned, why is it important enough to go out of your way for.

Why choose happiness?


We can find some good reasons in this list of ten things happy people have in common.

Happy people:


1- Feel Good


Happiness is fun and it feels good. That is a worthwhile reason why happiness is important all by itself.

2- Live Longer


Many studies have shown that happy people live longer. One study followed nuns who wrote a short biographical sketch before taking their vows. At the age of 85, 90% of the nuns with cheerful biographies (top 25%) was still alive, compared to just 54% of the least cheerful. At 94 years of age, 54% of the most cheerful quarter were alive compared to only 11% of the least cheerful. Many other studies have shown similar results.

3- Have Better Health


When life gives you lemons, make lemonade! Another reason why happiness is important is that the link between stress and illness is very well known and well documented, as is the reverse. Happy, positive feelings change the chemical make up of our bodies, producing chemicals that enhance immunity, cell repair, and building strength. Happiness is the opposite of stress. See the article, Three Research Findings on the Link Between Happiness and Health, for more ways being happy is good for your health.

You can read the rest of the great post at this link;
http://empowerpeace.typepad.com/empowerpeace/2012/12/ten-reasons-why-happiness-is-important.html# 

236419442_80_808Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Wednesday, 15 January 2014

Never give up!

Never give up!


Today, we have another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube 

Do you take everything at face value? I know I used to.

There’s always a back-story as to why someone’s dressed a particular way or something happens. You may not see it at first, and it may be a part of their life that they don’t want to admit to. Everyone’s going through hard times, but not having the same experiences.

Don’t feel alone, because everyone is going through life at their own pace. Though everything may look fine on the surface, you can never tell what someone’s going through. You don’t know how far someone’s come. You don’t know where they are in their life – whether they’re thinking of giving up or anything. Don’t take everything at face value; there are deeper reasons for everything. Though you may not see them at first, troubles come to make you stronger. That’s what I believe anyway. Because what happens after you have dealt with the situation; you are a stronger person.

So if you’re going through a rough time at the moment, just know that that sun is waiting to shower you in light when you’ve made it through the situation you’re faced with.

You are not briefed on how life will be and how to deal with it, so you’ve got to make it up on the job.

Life turns out based on your decisions throughout. So just because something doesn’t work out the first time, does that mean you give up?

No, I’m sure you’ve given things more than one attempt but why stop there? You can say ‘it’s the last chance’ and then realise how many chances ago you said it for the first time. Life is always changing, just like the world is revolving, so never give up. Things are changing constantly, so it may work out this time. You never know.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube 

Tuesday, 14 January 2014

Setting Personal Goals For Life

Setting Personal Goals For Life


 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career

I am not convinced that setting detailed personal goals for the whole of your life actually works. We change so much throughout our life experience. But I do think having some ideas about what we want to achieve overall is a good idea – so long as they are subject to regular review.

The first step in setting personal goals is to think about what you would like to achieve in the foreseeable future based an overall perspective of your life.

You need to include all the important areas in your life. Here are some examples;
  • Career What level do you want to reach in your career, or what do you want to achieve over say the next one, three and five years?
  • Financial How much do you want to earn and by what stage? How does this relate to your career goals?
  • Learning What knowledge would you like to acquire for work and outside. What skills and knowledge do you need to achieve your career goals?  
  • Family Do you want to find a partner and have a family? Is there some work you need to do to improve your relationship or family life?
  • Creativity How do you want to express yourself, in work and out? How do you spend your non-work time? Do you want to write a book or be an artist?
  • Confidence Do you have the confidence to attain your goals and if not what work are you prepared to develop it?
  • Social skills and communication Do you get on well with people and can you talk to them?
  • Physical and mental well being  Are you eating well, exercising and relaxing? Are your spiritual needs being met? Is there work you need to do here?  
  • Enjoyment When was the last time you laughed out loud or simply felt the warmth of pleasure in the smile of a child?
  • Giving back How would you like to contribute to the well-being of your fellow man or woman and the world in general?
Once you start you may think of other things that will help you give meaning to your life. That meaning is something we all need to thrive. If I can help you work towards your personal goals, please get in touch.

9115206e1319b8811806f442a99c8153Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career.
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com


Monday, 13 January 2014

Panic Attacks - Another Approach To Try!

Panic Attacks - Another Approach To Try!


 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career

This video from http://www.panic-away-program.com suggests four simple steps to stop panic attacks; based on observing and then moving on! 

It is worth a try isn't it. 

If you would like to do some deeper work on dealing with your anxiety, please get in touch (wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com)



9115206e1319b8811806f442a99c8153Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career.
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Friday, 10 January 2014

Something Tasty: Fish Cakes with Colcannon

Something Tasty: Fish Cakes with Colcannon


An Irish spin on Fish Cakes with the addition of Colcannon, a mix of potato and cabbage. Add some eggs and almond flour to bind it all together. A little salt, seasoning and some olive oil for frying and you have a delicious meal.




9115206e1319b8811806f442a99c8153Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career.
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Thursday, 9 January 2014

Relax; Spirit of Nature By Yanni

Relax; Spirit of Nature By Yanni

Something lovely to help you relax!


You can find this music on Amazon at this link




9115206e1319b8811806f442a99c8153Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career.
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Wednesday, 8 January 2014

Don’t regret not saying something!

Don’t regret not saying something!


Today, we have another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube 

Don’t regret not saying anything. I’ve had a few moments where I’ve just had to say something, either to voice how strongly a particular situation has made me feel or just because it was a now or never moment. If I hadn’t said anything, I knew I would regret it and the other person would probably never know. Life is so precious that I don’t want to regret something that I had the opportunity to say or do. The counter-argument to this is that you may not feel the same way by the morning. But if the conviction is strong enough to make you feel it, it must mean something to you.

You have the power to change anything at will, those obstacles we have no control over are the real blocks. Unless it is a physical issue, there is nothing there to stop you. At any time, you can decide to change because you need to and/or want to. Please remember that everyone goes through different anxieties and there is an anxiety they would not speak about, but there are always anxieties or worries on people’s minds. You may find out what it is, and may not think it’s very important but from their circumstance it may be the be all and end all. You’ve got to respect that everyone has different priorities and different circumstances to contend with. So just be helping hand or a listening ear for them when they need it. No one’s life is plain sailing; just be there for them when the waves rock overboard. There’s nothing you can do to stop bad things from happening, you can only be there for your friends when they’re in need.

Have no regrets. The only you regret when you’re older are regrets you have from when you’re younger and had the opportunity to do them. The things you look back at and wish you had done in the future could be the things you have the chance to do now. So try not to leave regrets in your path so take every chance while you can.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube 



Tuesday, 7 January 2014

How can I manage my anger?

How can I manage my anger?

 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career
Anger in itself is neither good nor bad; it becomes a problem when it harms us or other people. Long term and intense anger has been linked with mental health problems including depression, anxiety and self-harm. It is also linked to poorer overall physical health and, for example, high blood pressure. So what can you do?
When you feel the first surge of anger boiling up inside you, pause for a moment. Think about what has made you angry, think about the consequences of exploding in a rage and then choose how to respond.
Even in the middle of an argument, it’s not too late to take a deep breath and choose to express your feelings differently. Give rational thinking time to kick in.
Count to ten before you act.
Drop your shoulders and breathe deeply to help you relax - your instincts may be telling your body to get ready to fight, but your rational self can reverse this message by telling your body to chill out.
If you feel the urge to throw something or hit out, remove yourself from the situation and try taking it out on something soft like a cushion that you won’t damage and which won’t hurt you.
Try screaming if it won’t disturb people near you or scream into a pillow to release your tension.
Talk yourself down – imagine what your calmest friend would say to you and give yourself the same advice
Imagine yourself in a relaxing scene.
Distract yourself or take yourself out of the situation that made you angry - read a magazine, do a crossword, listen to soothing music, go for a walk.
Pour out how you feel in writing or redirect your energy into another creative activity.
Offload to a friend who will help you get perspective on the situation.
There are other activities which may help you almost immediately, later the same day or if you make them part of your lifestyle longer term.
Work off your anger through exercise - channelling your energy into exercise instead will increase the release of feel good brain chemicals called endorphins which help us relax.
Use relaxation techniques like yoga or meditation - techniques like these challenge the physical aspects of anger, such as the brain chemicals that prepare you to fight, before these chemicals lead you to act impulsively.
If you would like help to manage your anger, please get in touch.

9115206e1319b8811806f442a99c8153Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career.
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com




This advice is based on that of the Mental Health Foundation.  You can find them at this link http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/

Monday, 6 January 2014

Do You Really Need To Be Told How To Boost Your Health in 2014

Do You Really Need To Be Told How To Boost Your Health in 2014?


 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career

This is the time of year when websites and magazines offering advice on becoming healthy abound. But let us be really honest here, most people know what is needed already.  You and I know that really there are no magic short-cuts or secret keys to being healthy.

Buying all the diet books and reading articles about exercise won't do it for you! You (and I) need to put into practice what we already know.  

We know that we should;
  • Check our weight
  • Drink less alcohol and more water
  • Eat less salt and fat
  • Exercise regularly
  • Eat more fruit and veg
  • Keep stress in check
  • Improve our sleep

If you are still smoking, then get help. If you are sexually active outside of a stable relationship, get a sexual health check. If you notice a small change, like a lump, changes to a mole, or unexplained weight loss then seek medical advice.

You know these things already but, if you really need it, you  can find a safe and reliable source of further advice at this link

If the real problem is not gaining insight, but putting this wisdom into practice, get in touch. Life Coaches have lots of ways to help you think more positively about a healthy life style and to support you in achieving it.

9115206e1319b8811806f442a99c8153Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career.
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com
http://wisewolfcoaching.com