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Wednesday, 30 April 2014

Be Lulled to Gentle Sleep

Be Lulled to Gentle Sleep


Blissful Sleep- a Guided Talk-down 

A sleepy, gentle and effective guided talk-down to help induce sleep. Feel yourself floating on a soft cloud as you're lulled by gentle music!  



A sleepy, gentle and effective guided talk-down to help induce sleep. Feel yourself floating on a soft cloud as you're lulled by gentle music!  


With a gentle guiding voice and a slow, non-waking fade at the end.

Music:
Falling Leaves
Photograph of 1943
Sincerity
Composer, all tracks: Alexander Khaskin (SOCAN) 
Publisher, Lynne Publishing (PRS)

Download the extended 20 min version here -http://www.cdbaby.com/cd/thehonestguys3

Tuesday, 29 April 2014

Wendy's Spring Newsletter

We are 'springing' into action, are you?
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The Wolf in Spring

Springing into Action

Wendy's Spring Newsletter

by Wendy Mason

Hi there , I hope the year so far has been kind to you and yours. Sadly, for so many, it has not been particularly happy and I'm hoping with the spring comes relief for us all.

I hope you find the articles here useful and if you know someone who is struggling with a challenge at work you may wish to pass on to them the offer below.

As for me, well I continue to combine life and career coaching and creative writing. My clients come from all walks of life and, courtesy of Skype, from different parts of the world. Most are at a life or career cross-roads and many are trying to balance a challenging work load with a satisfying family life. They are a joy to work with and the posts below are ones that they have found particularly useful.

The items below come from my two blogs
WiseWolf Talking – the WiseWolf Coaching – my blog which focuses mainly on career development and job search
And
WiseWolf’s Your Happiness Factor focuses on life in the round including the odd recipe and lots of tips for dealing with stress.

Dealing With a Boss Who Feels Jealous

Bosses, like all of us, come with any of the range of human weaknesses and one of them can be jealousy.

There you are, a senior manager who has worked hard to get to this level. You are good and you know it. But you are not always sure those above appreciate you. Then, along comes this bright young team member. It appears to you that for them everything comes effortlessly.

Those parts of the work that you find difficult, they find easy. Plus your own boss has begun already to notice how good they are. Can you see how a jealous boss might emerge?
What do you do? You can read the rest of the post at this link


The Simplest Way to Relax

Most relaxation techniques combine breathing more deeply with relaxing your muscles.

Don't worry if you find it difficult to relax at first. It's a skill that needs to be learned and it will come with practice.

Practice for three to five minutes, two to three times a day! You can use this technique whenever you feel the need to calm down!

You can read the rest of this post at this link


What is Personal Development?


Personal development is a way that you can develop yourself; sometimes alone, sometimes with support from others.

Personal development can help you identify and develop your talents and potential.
You can improve your career opportunities, enhance the quality of your life and contribute to the realization of your dreams and aspirations.

You can read the rest of the post at this link


Don't forget I offer a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype to potential new clients and I am very happy to offer a further 10% discount to you, your friends and family if they mention this Newsletter.
I wish you every happiness and success over the coming months.

Warm regards
Wendy


wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

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5 Secrets to Falling Asleep More Easily

 

5 Secrets to Falling Asleep More Easily

I found this great post by coach, Shana Montesol Johnson, and thought you would find it interesting.

"What does getting a good night’s sleep have to do with career success?  You might be surprised.  The topic of sleep comes up frequently in my coaching sessions with international development professionals.  They tend to be hard-working, intelligent, successful people…who are exhausted.  They know they’re not at the top of their game when they don’t get enough sleep.

My clients’ sleep is affected by late night conference calls with colleagues in different time zones, frequent international travel, and the sheer volume of work that their jobs entail.  Many of them try to maximize time with family and/or loved ones in the evenings, and then put in a few more hours of work.  They then fall into bed, exhausted, yet find it difficult to “shut down” their brains and fall asleep.

If you’ve experienced the same problem, here are five techniques to help you fall asleep more easily.

1.  Stop work one hour before you plan to go to bed

Give your brain a chance to down-shift .... Read the rest of the post at this link

Monday, 28 April 2014

How to Never Be Bored Again



How to Never Be Bored Again







Learn how to never be bored with Stella Grizont! Not sure I agree with her that boredom actually kills but this is a good little video,

Stella Grizont graduated with a Masters in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She is the founder of WOOPAAH, a happiness company teaching individuals and organizations how to thrive and play. Her work has been featured on MSBNC, ABC7 News, The Today Show, and Entrepreneur Magazine. Some of the organizations that love Stella include: Google, Columbia University, and The City of New York. You can get some of her free science based / inspiration filled tips on living more alive here:http://tinyurl.com/kuhmuq7.

Wednesday, 23 April 2014

There are no rewinds in life.

There are no rewinds in life.

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

There are no rewinds in life. So it makes it intense to get everything right first time. But everybody has something they still need to ‘perfect’ or for use of a better word, make right. 

Everyone messes up, though they may be good at hiding it. 

If you have a plan, you can’t always stick to it. There are detours and interruptions that this life will give you and we may never get back to the place we left from, again. But that’s Ok. 

The worst thing in life is standing still. 

When it’s rushing by I know that we all complain that it’s going too fast but at least you are moving forward, with every step. We’d be in a lot more trouble if time just stopped dead, although we may wish for it to. You’ve got so much to do and too little time?

Everybody’s been in that position and y’know what? If you just prioritise; write a list with the most important things you have to do today in red or capital letters, then you can feel the satisfaction of crossing it off when you’ve done it. Don’t do a job half-heartedly though. Time restraints are there to push you not to weaken you.


Don’t treat yourself too harshly if you don’t live up to your own expectations (which are all that matter) or act in the way you wish you had. Why am I saying the way you treat yourself? Because that’s what it should be, taken literally. A treat. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Wednesday, 16 April 2014

The Simplest Way To Relax

The Simplest Way To Relax


Most relaxation techniques combine breathing more deeply with relaxing your muscles.

Don't worry if you find it difficult to relax at first. It's a skill that needs to be learned and it will come with practice. Practise for three to five minutes, two to three times a day! You can use this technique whenever you feel the need to calm down!

Relaxed breathing

Practise deep breathing at a regular time and in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Loosen or remove any tight clothes and make yourself comfortable! If you can, sit in a comfortable chair which supports your head or lie on the floor or bed. Place your arms on the chair arms, or flat on the floor or bed, a little bit away from the side of your body with the palms up. If you’re lying down, stretch out your legs, keeping them hip-width apart or slightly wider. If you’re sitting in a chair, don’t cross your legs.

Good relaxation always starts with focusing on your breathing. The way to do it is to breathe in and out slowly and in a regular rhythm as this will help you to calm down.

·         Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth slowly.
·         Fill up the whole of your lungs with air, without forcing.
·         Imagine you're filling up a bottle, so that your lungs fill from the bottom.
·         Breathe in slowly and regularly counting from one to five (don’t worry if you can’t reach five at first).
·         Then let the breath escape slowly, counting from one to five.
·         Keep doing this until you feel calm.
·         Breathe without pausing or holding your breath.

While you are doing this concentrate completely on your breathing – let the thought of your breath fill you heart and mind completely!

You will be surprised by the power of this very simple technique which you can use any time and  in more or less any place.  Please try it.

Tuesday, 15 April 2014

If you have to fight for something you have no reason to give up

If you have to fight for something you have no reason to give up. 

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

When the referee blows the full time whistle you have my permission to give up. 

My point is no one has a referee with a whistle to blow full time in this life. Everyone has highs, everyone has lows. Who are you to think your lows are worse than anyone else’s? 

Of course good things come to an end, and they have to so you can learn to appreciate them. The good times account for memories: sometimes that’s the best part of being alive because you know that things can only get better. 

Of course there will be moments of heart ache and you will go through hard times, but just hold onto the belief that if the past good times have been that good the hard times will get better. Though at times, when fighting for something, you cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel you just have to keep going because it will be out there. Somewhere.

You can’t change the events that go on in someone else’s life. Even though you might want to, particularly when you care so much about someone you just want their pain so that they don’t have to face it. But life doesn't work that way. While you can always be relied upon for moral support, oftentimes there is nothing you can do when life plays out such catastrophes. And that is painful.

Just know that you have the biggest heart and someday that will be noticed, if it hasn't already. 

Sometimes there’s nothing you can do. It is hard, but that’s the way life is. 

For years I blamed myself for an episode that happened when I was eleven. I kept thinking if I hadn't done things in the way I did, the bad events that occurred may not have happened.


Just as with my previous point, you can’t control other people’s reactions. Just because it’s not the way you would react, doesn't mean it’s wrong. People are different. Something that’s natural for you may not be for someone else. 

You are not in charge of everyone. The only person you are accountable for is YOU. People who rely on you (kids/friends etc.) are individuals themselves and need the chance to be able to make mistakes so that they can set them right. Not you.

Imagine if you were wrapped in cotton wool all your life, without being able to make a single mistake or live. 

Mistakes are a part of living, and even the most composed, self-assured person has made a mistake in their past. Just because they’re not making them now, doesn't mean they haven’t. 

It might takes a lot of tries to get to where you want to in life, but if you focus on ‘how to do it better next time’ it’s so much less time-consuming and much more positive than thinking about the amount of times you failed. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Friday, 11 April 2014

Bánh bột lọc - Vietnamese clear shrimp & pork dumpling

Bánh bột lọc - Vietnamese clear shrimp & pork dumpling


I'm eating Vietnamese food tonight so I thought it was time for this. Plus the accompanying song made me feel happy.

With thanks to https://www.youtube.com/user/HelenRecipes



Full recipe in English and Vietnamese athttp://danangcuisine.com/?p=660
Ingredients
400gr tapioca starch
200gr shrimp
Ingredients
For the dough
400g (14 oz) tapioca starch
250ml water (1 cup) boiling hot water
For the filling
200g (7 oz) shrimps, deveined and diced
200g (7 oz) pork belly, diced
1 tsp minced shallot
1 tsp minced garlic
Salt & pepper
½ tsp paprika powder
2 tsp vegetable oil
1 tbsp sugar
1 tbsp fish sauce
For garnish
100g spring onion, chopped
¼ cup vegetable oil
Cilanto and fresh red chili, choppped
Vietnamese dipping fish sauce "nuoc cham"http://youtu.be/OrUZzchXGzo

More Vietnamese BANH recipes: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=...

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Soundtrack by Le Cat Trong Ly - "It's so great to be a girl"

Tuesday, 8 April 2014

Explore A Little Magic for Inspiration - Pegasus

Explore A Little  Magic for Inspiration - Pegasus



The symbol of Pegasus gives you inspiration, quick and agile wisdom and inspires your ability to fly over any situation.

He can be a helper with spiritual explorations and a protector during your spiritual travels.

He will help you work to change evil into good.

Pegasus, though gentle, is very strong and in Greek mythology carried of Zeus' thunderbolt.

He is the horse of the Muses, in the service of poets and I hope you are privileged to ride on his back to find your inspiration!


Monday, 7 April 2014

Other People And Their Expectations

Other People And Their Expectations

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos


You shouldn’t not do something just because it’s been marred by other people. They don’t know what you’ve been through and they don’t know where you’re going.

Other people’s opinions are rated highly. Why? We don’t know them. We don’t know their story. They’ll only be a passing stranger in your story; don’t let them have the power of deciding what you do. 

Other people are so over-preoccupied with their own issues that they don’t notice your faults as much as you think they do. As a human race, we are selfish in that way.

So don’t ever be too hard on yourself. 

Most of the time you’ll find that you, yourself are applying the pressure on yourself. Everybody messes up. And in a tense situation it may provide a light moment – as long as you can laugh at yourself. If you can it will warm people to you. It’s a difficult thing to do you just have to let go.

Being able to make a mistake and see the funny side is good for you as well as other people. They will feel immediately at ease with you and surely that’s what you want?

Expectations are a killer. 

Having expectations of anyone else's actions or responses is dangerous. You can have high expectations of yourself but please remember not to beat yourself up if you don't meet them!

We are all pioneers who learn life on the job. And no matter how old you are, you are still learning. New situations come up all the time and though you may have been through similar in the past you have never been through this. And that’s Okay. People may have been through similar themselves but they can only provide suggestions as to how you handle it. They are not living your life. 

Hopefully you will have people who support your decisions but if you don’t, I know it’s very hard but keep holding on. There will be a silver lining on a cloud somewhere.

Other people’s expectations of us drain us. You can only be you. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Thursday, 3 April 2014

When friendships end!

When friendships end!

If we are lucky in life we get to meet many people and make some good friends. We can make friends throughout life. And some we carry with us through our life.  Lots of people are still friends with people they met as children.

But sometimes friendships come to an end. 

This may happen quite naturally and by some kind of unspoken agreement. You just seem to realise you have nothing in common any more – life has moved on and what was a friendship becomes an acquaintanceship with some happy memories and the annual Christmas card.

At other times the break up is rather more traumatic with angry words, accusations and on-going bad feelings. It has some elements in common with a broken love affair but it can be lot more messy. With a broken love affair someone usually makes it quite clear that this is the end. That may be painful but at least you can mourn the loss and then get on with the rest of your life. 

It is not wise to end a friendship in anger. Much better to withdraw gently and with grace, letting the other person keep their pride intact and with both of you being grateful for what you have shared.

If you feel you no longer wish to be friends with someone, be honest with yourself about why. Reflect on why you were friends in the first place and what has changed. 

Is there some healing you need to do or some words you need to say? Should you give the other person a chance to put something right?

If not, and you still wish to move on, then take a step back. Don’t agree to meet up with them just because you feel guilty. Take time responding to messages and when you do respond  be brief. Don't seek them out or expect the friend you want to lose to listen to your problems. 

It won’t take long for most people to get the message that your chilliness is sending. But you do need to be prepared to deal with questions and to explain that you no longer feel you have much in common, although you are grateful for what you have shared in the past.

But be very, very careful .The older you get, the more you value friendship, so be prepared to regret those you lost on the way!

Tuesday, 1 April 2014

If you try to get somewhere!

If you try to get somewhere!

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

If you try to get somewhere, I can’t promise you’ll get anywhere fast, but if you’re trying you will eventually get there. It might not be where you set off to get to, but that’s ok because plans change their course throughout our lives so we never really know where we’re headed anyway. 

Your journey may take many unprecedented twists and turns, but will always lead you to the right circumstance.

You may fall many times, but the true power lies in the strength that you can maintain to get back up and keep going.

I could go down the negative perspective to try to get you to see that negativity is not the way to go, but why would I do that when I’m trying to boost you up? The people who speak negatively are trying to tear you down. 

Don’t let them. Rise above it. 

They are below you for the very reason that they’re now trying to drag you down. Because they view life negatively and are getting nowhere.

Keep thinking and acting positively and you will reap rewards and they (the negatives) will have to shout to be heard. Just keep going on your own path and the negatives will disappear into the distant background. 

Be happy with who you are because we only get one chance at life. True, we did not choose our family but we can choose who our friends are. 

We can’t choose where we came from, but we can choose where we’re going. But as I’ve said, we often get pulled off track to go somewhere else. Don’t resist the changes, let them happen and who knows you might end up happier on this path than the one you were on before. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos