Your Happiness Factor

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Monday, 16 June 2014

There are positive outcomes


There are positive outcomes

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Very few people have confidence in happiness. They believe that you have to work for it, that it can't just come out of nowhere. But that's the beautiful thing about life. You just need to be able to let things go and enjoy the little things in life. I think our generation has gotten very reliant on the impression we give others that we fail to notice the beauty around us. Look up from your phone, because you'll never know what chances are passing you by while you're trying to impress your friends. Why do we even need to impress our friends? They're friends of ours for a reason, we don't have to impress them every minute of the day. That's just what I think anyway.

Negativity sticks out. That's why we see it and ignore the positive outcomes which evolve at the same time. As a human race, we've been programmed to see things fit together. So when they don't, when the pieces of negativity stick out we latch ourselves onto those bits for fear of getting left behind in a whirlwind. But it's time like these we just need to loosen the grip a little bit at least, bec ause we miss so much while we're pursuing something else. If we look at every situation negatively why are we surprised that we get negative outcomes? If you look negatively at stuff the outcome will always be negative. So try looking at stuff positively. You can't just change your mind in a night. It takes time. You've actually got to believe that it can have a positive outcome. Sometimes it still will turn out negatively. There's nothing you can do about that. But having a brighter frame of mind, while not always easy, will set you up for a good day and though it may not always work out in a positive way, at least you know that there was nothing you could have done. It's the law of attraction, your thoughts are more powerful than you know. 


Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 



 

Thursday, 12 June 2014

Stop Worrying

Stop Worrying

As Bob Marley said

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Someone close to me just got the all clear from hospital. While I should have been elated and join her in the living room, I didn’t. Not because I’m not overjoyed, but just because I’d only just come to my laptop to write. There are other things going on in other people’s lives that will make them inattentive to your every move. As I’m sure you understand by now, not everyone can be at your beck and call when you need them. And that’s not because they don’t like you; it’s merely because they have their own lives too that they’re busy with. 

People are so preoccupied with themselves that they will hardly notice that thing that you're so worried about. You're you. People don't judge you about what you're worrying about most of the time, they are concerned with how they look or are acting or something. So stop worrying so much! Just be you and don't be so hard on yourself.

I messaged someone, and by the time that they’d replied I’d completely forgotten I’d messaged them in the first place! It made me feel so good. Plus I was going through rather a hard moment at that point in time so it made me smile no end. It made it a lot easier to get through that dark day.

I have good relationships with people around me and my friends from further afield. While I don’t hear much from my friends abroad or in other divisions of the UK that often, it really makes it special when I do and it’s nice to know that they remember they’ve always got my shoulder to cry on. I tend to print off emails, or write down some positive things that they say to me and put it in a special box in the hope that one day when I’m having a rough day I’ll look back and remember that people do care. They might not be around to show it all the time, but when they do I make sure I can recollect it. Because who knows when a bad day might strike? It could be because of a sarcy comment or for no reason at all, but it’s always great to know that you have a back-up plan.


If I, myself, can’t make myself feel better, I know that my friends, be they past or present, can help me.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Monday, 9 June 2014

Confidence is Key

Confidence is Key

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Keep smiling when times are tough. How many times have you been told that? Countless times no doubt. Well, you know what? They might just be onto something.

Smiles release endorphins that cause happiness and I have actually tried this when I was feeling low (it happens to us all) and it made me feel better. At the time I had a headache and wasn't feeling very positive about life. So I tried smiling to see if what they said was actually true. And I can confirm it. It didn't work instantly but my headache soon wore off and I was pretty much back to the old positive me.

At these time you just need to refocus the lenses on happiness. Just smiling and focusing all my energy on that helped me. It could help you too so give it a go.

What do you have confidence in? Very few people have confidence in who they are as a person. Why do you hear of some people and not of others? Because they had the confidence to keep doing what they're doing even when the world said 'stop'. 

Having belief in yourself is massive. 

When the hurdles are too big for you to jump over, if you believe in yourself you'll be able to tackle it perhaps only moving a brick at a time but you'll get there. Whereas if you don't, you'll come to a halt in front of the big hurdle with no way around it. The thing about life is it's always better to be moving. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 3 June 2014

You don’t always have to be happy, but…!

You don’t always have to be happy, but…!

 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home.

Thinking about the D-day anniversary later this week has led me to think about my parents’ generation; the people who lived through the Second World War.  

We tend to remember the heroic! Many, of course, were not heroic in the way we usually think about heroes.  But, ordinary people, I suspect on all sides, were stoic and what mattered most was getting through. Many did get through very hard times. For them, personal happiness was secondary: what mattered was to do your duty.

Times have changed! Not least because the generation that got through that war wanted better for their children. They wanted their kids to be happy. If they were not, what had the war been about?  

Their kids were the Boomer Generation; my generation! Whatever you think of us now, most of us did start out wanting to change the world for the better. Think about 1968.  And some really did care about what was happening to the world in terms of the environment – check out where the major protest groups have their origins.

We wanted a different kind of freedom to our parents.  We wanted the opportunity to challenge established institutions and promote the interests of the individual.  The trouble the interests of the individual and the search for personal happiness became something of an obsession. Things changed to the point where now, not being happy is sometimes perceived as personal failure and certainly not to be tolerated.

If you stop to think about the reality of human life, this is nonsense.  There are lots of occasions when no rational person would be happy; for example, in bereavement, loss, or serious illness.

Sometimes when you don’t feel happy, it acts as a stimulus to positive change.  At other times, you are aware that unhappiness is part of a change being thrust upon you. You just can’t avoid a very painful process of change
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If you are confident and whole, unhappiness is usually a transitory state. Although becoming happy again may take months and years to happen rather than days and weeks. Unhappiness can be something to be lived through until some other change takes place. And sometimes, there is no happy place to reach and all you can do is to try to find some peace in coming to terms with reality. It can be made more bearable by the support of family and friends.

Sadly some unhappiness is about not having the confidence and resources to make a change. At these times you need outside help.  There are people who can help you if you can find the energy to contact them.  One phone call or an e-mail can make all the difference.   Please take that deep breath and make your call. Unhappiness can be part of a noble sacrifice, or a healing process. But when it isn't it is time to act.

Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com