Your Happiness Factor

One chance at life Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos  If one bad happens in a day try not to let it affect the day’s productiveness. We’ve all had days when a bad thing happens first thing and the whole day is ruined because of it. But if you just refocus on the positive after the downfall – whatever it may be – you can turn a downward turn into an upward one.  Everyone fails at something in their life – a mis-venture or makes a million mistakes – there’s no plain sailing in life, even if it looks to be on the surface. You can never really tell what’s on someone else’s mind unless they tell you. Nor what’s bubbling beneath the surface of a smile. So try to be kind. One of my core beliefs is there

Ten Reasons Why Happiness is Important You might wonder why happiness is important. If you believe as I do that happiness is a choice and a skill that can be learned, why is it important enough to go out of your way for. Why choose happiness? We can find some good reasons in this list of ten things happy people have in common. Happy people: 1- Feel Good Happiness is fun and it feels good. That is a worthwhile reason why happiness is important all by itself. 2- Live Longer Many studies have shown that happy people live longer. One study followed nuns who wrote a short biographical sketch before taking their vows. At the age of 85, 90% of the nuns with cheerful biographies (top 25%) was still alive, compared to just 54% of the least cheerful. At 94 years of age, 54% of the most cheerful quarter were alive compared to only 11% of the least cheerful. Many other studies have shown similar results. 3- Have Better Health When life gives you lemons, make lemo

Never give up! Today, we have another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   Do you take everything at face value? I know I used to. There’s always a back-story as to why someone’s dressed a particular way or something happens. You may not see it at first, and it may be a part of their life that they don’t want to admit to. Everyone’s going through hard times, but not having the same experiences. Don’t feel alone, because everyone is going through life at their own pace. Though everything may look fine on the surface, you can never tell what someone’s going through. You don’t know how far someone’s come. You don’t know where they are in their life – whether they’re thinking of giving up or anything. Don’t take everything at face value; there are deeper reasons for everything. Th

Don’t regret not saying something! Today, we have another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   Don’t regret not saying anything. I’ve had a few moments where I’ve just had to say something, either to voice how strongly a particular situation has made me feel or just because it was a now or never moment. If I hadn’t said anything, I knew I would regret it and the other person would probably never know. Life is so precious that I don’t want to regret something that I had the opportunity to say or do. The counter-argument to this is that you may not feel the same way by the morning. But if the conviction is strong enough to make you feel it, it must mean something to you. You have the power to change anything at will, those obstacles we have no control over are the real blocks. Unl

 Giving little compliments away can mean so much Today, we have another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   I think it’s important to always be considerate of other people’s feelings. Like remembering when important things happen in their lives, especially if they’re fearful of that event. That’s why giving little compliments away can mean so much. It can brighten someone’s day. It can be a simple thing such as ‘I like that colour on you’ or ‘I really liked your work today’. As is well known in the world by now, that children don’t respond if there’s someone putting them down, they respond more to small encouragements. We are all like little children and that is nothing to be ashamed of! Just now our little encouragements have developed into compliments. So give one away. T

Those Days When You Wish You Had Stayed In bed Sometimes I think everyone has an allotted  share of happy times and unhappy times.  In reality we all seem to get a mixture. There are times in our lives when most, if not all, of life seems to be going well; we feel fit, we have someone to love who loves us back, we have work to that satisfies us and enough money to do the things that really matter to us. And on top of all that, when we got up this morning, the sun was shining and the birds were singing as we left the house. Then of course there are those other times. Some important part of life is to greater or a lesser extent not going well and on top of all that we woke up to storm clouds and torrential rain. As if that wasn't enough, there are days when we simply should have stayed in bed. From that first trip to the bathroom when we fell over the cat, things have gone wrong. Or we just feel generally out of sorts. Accepting that painful periods in life

Today, we have another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube   Doesn’t it just feel like all your problems are weighing you down?  Well the good news is this is just temporary. Although it feels like it will go on forever, I assure you it won’t.  In months, years, a decade you’ll be looking back and asking yourself why did you think that was so hard? Why did you let that stop you? And it’ll either be because things have toppled on top of that, and you have learnt to deal with it or all the issues of those days have disappeared.  And you’ll be glad you’ve been through it. Either because it’s taught you how to deal with problems for the future when they appear, or you’ll be so thankful that that was then and this is now. You will be better equipped to fight off a similar issue,

Tuesday Quotes - Find A Little Happiness I wish you every happiness and if you need help finding it please get in touch. Warm regards Wendy wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com http://wisewolfcoaching.com Related articles What is your special gift? Career Development: When it is time for a change! Tuesday Clinic: When You Make A Mistake!

Making the tea. When you feel the fear! Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube    You are arrested by your own fears.  You are the only one stopping you. "Because I might get laughed at!" "Because I might get it wrong!" Sound familiar?  If you never try, you’ll never know. You could be the best.  But a reluctance to face what you could be great at is, of course, a holdback.  If you’re strong enough to not want regrets, you need to let go of your fears. Though people may laugh at the start, when it becomes your norm, people who appreciate you will laugh at them!  Just because someone doesn’t believe in something, it doesn’t mean it’s wrong for you.  My parents are very protective of me and won’t even let me make a cup of tea! Crazy I know: they are on

Don't regret Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube    'I don’t regret anything I have done or anyone I met. There was a reason for every one – either they’re long lasting friends or they’re to teach me about distance or to show me that holding onto something isn’t worth it. I only regret the time I wasted not making the most of every moment – when, at uni, I used to stay in every night – not making anything happen when I could have. You never know what could happen. Don’t waste it. You only get one chance. So go be free. No one has the right to tell you how to live. I know the future may appear dismal right now, but I promise somewhere there is a star waiting to shine above you. In life, there are 3 things you need: A wishbone; A backbone; A funny

e-happiness: everything happens for a reason Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video When you move house you adapt it to suit your needs . Situations/catastrophes happen in your life so you can do the same. And although you may not think it at the time, these things occur to make you stronger. And nothing ever happens in the same way again. The changes may be subtle, or it becomes a choice.  Everything has an underlying reason behind it, though it’s not always clear why certain things happen. It may be a small reason, but it all adds up. And you will become a stronger person because of them.  Mark my words!  There is nothing you can do in certain situations and you just have to endure them. It is hard. For instance, when my grandfather died I kept thinking ‘maybe if I had done this di

You Are Unique - It Is Time To Be Proud! Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube    I was told once that I was really strong because I just don’t care do I?  I do care if you’re important to me. But if it’s a once in a lifetime experience or if I’ll never see the people from a certain situation again I don’t.  Life is too short to worry about what people think of you.  It doesn’t matter what people think of you, as long as you’re happy. When your happiness shines through they can grimace all they like, but they won’t be able to take away your experience. And that’s what life’s all about, experiencing things.  Although it may be a risk, you’ve got to try it else you never know if it’ll work out. And this involves making mistakes too. Lots of them. Everybody makes them.  At

Creating Rainbows Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on  YouTube    My theory on life – It has to rain a lot in a life before the sun pokes its head through the clouds. There’s no saying how long the rain could last for or how many clouds will gather above you. Life is unpredictable But please remember, beautiful things blossom from the rain and they take time to do this, so don’t think you’re losing time. You are right where you need to be at this moment in time. The rain might last for a day, a week, a month, a few months, a year or a few (etc.) but the sun will rise again, and you’ll realise that everything that has happened to you in your life has been leading up to this moment. So learn to dance in the rain. It’s the best thing about the rain. And learning to hurdle over thin

The past is not yours to change, the future is all that you have Today we have another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at  www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk  and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on YouTube    Don’t pre-condition things just because that’s the way it turned out last time, don’t write it off this time. If it turned out badly, take a deep breath and try again. You never know what could happen in the future.  Remember the past is not yours to change, the future is all that you have to alter so don’t dwell on things you can do nothing about. Stay grounded. Don’t worry about the past; it’s gone. Don’t worry about the future; it hasn’t arrived. Just live for every second. No one knows what will happen in the next 5 seconds, let alone tomorrow.  Worry is just stress you don’t need. I understand why people go through bouts of it, but it’s good to break the habi

One Positive Thought Can Change Your Day Today we have another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at  www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk  and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's  first video on YouTube    How can anyone be sure they are seeing the same thing? I mean exactly the same. The light can shape things in different way and reflect back to us differently. Hang on, how do we even know the intensity of light that hits our eyes is the same as everybody else’s? We might see a bright light, while for others it’s duller. How do I know the air that I’m breathing today isn’t more toxic than the air yesterday? I watched a TED talk about what we find beautiful. It’s interesting because NO ONE IS THE SAME.  How can I ever know that reading this will inspire you to do something with your day? I can’t predict anything, and I can’t say that what worked for me will work for you. Because we’re all dif

You are worth so much more than you will ever know. Today we have another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at  www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk  and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube   Hard to believe isn’t it? It takes time, but if you believe in it enough it can change your day, or indeed your life. I used to think after all I had been through in my life, that I’d be in light at the end of the tunnel soon. But I’ve come to realise that I’ve got to keep clawing my way to get closer to the light for myself. Because I really deserve this. This is a key belief to have, to know you deserve it. Because of self-esteem issues it can seem like you’re not worthy of anything at times. But you are. You are worth so much more than you will ever know. And you too, deserve to see the light with the same velocity that I do. Although I may have been through more during my life up