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Tuesday, 31 July 2012

Twenty-five Signs You Have Grown Up

Wendys   

I think you will enjoy these!

Twenty-five Signs You Have Grown Up

1. Your houseplants are alive, and you can’t smoke any of them.

2. Having sex in a twin bed is out of the question.

3. You keep more food than beer in the fridge.
4. 6:00 AM is when you get up, not when you go to bed.
5. You hear your favorite song in an elevator.
6. You watch the Weather Channel.
7. Your friends marry and divorce instead of “hook up” and “breakup.”
8. You go from 130 days of vacation time to 14.
9. Jeans and a sweater no longer qualify as “dressed up.”
10. You’re the one calling the police because those %&@# kids next door won’t turn down the stereo.
You can read 11 to 25 at this link http://www.divinecaroline.com/22117/35339-twenty-five-signs-grown#ixzz22D1XPNEw


Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com



Email Wendy now at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype

Coming shortly - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - if you would like to know more email wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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Monday, 30 July 2012

Monday Quotes - The Right Time

WASHINGTON, DC - JANUARY 16:   U.S. President ...President Barack Obama paints a quote (' The time is always right to do what is right ') from Martin Luther King, Jr  (Image credit: Getty Images via @daylife)

A gift is pure when it is given from the heart to the right person at the right time and at the right place and when we expect nothing in return, Bhagavad Gita


Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time Arnold H. Glasgow


You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late, Ralph Waldo Emerson


It's easy to play any musical instrument all you have to do is touch the right key at the right time and the instrument will play it self Bach


The time is always right to do what is right Martin Luther King Jr


A year from now you will wish you had started today Karen Lamb


Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. Barack Obama


Somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known Carl Sagan


There is only one time when it is essential to awaken. That time is now.Buddha


The bad news is time flies. The good news is you're the pilot. Michael Altshuler  


Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com



Email Wendy now at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype

Coming shortly - Getting There With WiseWolf - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - if you would like to know more email wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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Friday, 27 July 2012

A little art and relaxation - Marc Chagall

"In our life there is a single color, as on an artist's palette, which provides the meaning of life and art. It is the color of LOVE" Marc Chagall




Marc Chagall was born in 1887 to a poor Jewish family in Russia. He was the eldest of nine children. Chagall began to display his artistic talent while studying at a secular Russian school, and despite his father's disapproval, in 1907 he began studying art with Leon Bakst in St. Petersburg. It was at this time that his distinct style that we recognize today began to emerge. As his paintings began to center on images from his childhood, the focus that would guide his artistic motivation for the rest of his life came to fruition.


In 1910, Chagall, moved to Paris for four years. It was during this period that he painted some of his most famous paintings of the Jewish village, and developed the features that became recognizable trademarks of his art. Strong and bright colors began to portray the world in a dreamlike state. Fantasy, nostalgia, and religion began to fuse together to create otherworldly images...


Chagall received many prizes and much recognition for his work. He was also one of very few artists to exhibit work at the Louvre in their lifetime.


Music:"Serenade to Spring",Secret Garden



Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com



Email Wendy now at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype

Coming shortly - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - if you would like to know more email wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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Thursday, 26 July 2012

Absolutely Fabulous - I'm So Beautiful

Something to brighten your day - a tribute to Eddy and Patsy - looking their best. You can always turn it down I suppose! And how come Joanna Lumley looks good even when she shouldn't?  What Divas!


Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com



Email Wendy now at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype

Coming shortly - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - if you would like to know more email wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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Wednesday, 25 July 2012

Thursday Quotes - Women On Anger

Thursday Quotes - Women On Anger

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Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean. Maya Angelou

I want to say somewhere: I've tried to be forgiving. And yet. There were times in my life, whole years, when anger got the better of me. Ugliness turned me inside out. There was a certain satisfaction in bitterness. I courted it. It was standing outside, and I invited it in. Nicole Krauss, The History of Love

So you try to think of someone else you're mad at, and the unavoidable answer pops into your little warped brain: everyone. Ellen Hopkins

Most hatred is based on fear, one way or another. Yeah. I wrapped myself in anger, with a dash of hate, and at the bottom of it all was an icy center of pure terror. LaurellK. Hamilton, Guilty Pleasures

Anger is stupid, and stupidity will kill you more surely than your opponent's blade. Patricia Briggs, Dragon Bones

This was something she would keep hidden within herself, maybe in place of the knot of pain and anger she had been carrying under her breastbone...a security blanket, an ace up her sleeve. She might never use it, but she would always feel its presence like a swelling secret stone, and that way when she let go of the rage, she would not feel nearly as empty. Jodi Picoult, Mercy

Anger is like flowing water; there's nothing wrong with it as long as you let it flow. Hate is like stagnant water; anger that you denied yourself the freedom to feel, the freedom to flow; water that you gathered in one place and left to forget. Stagnant water becomes dirty, stinky, disease-ridden, poisonous, deadly; that is your hate. On flowing water travels little paper boats; paper boats of forgiveness. Allow yourself to feel anger, allow your waters to flow, along with all the paper boats of forgiveness. Be human. C.Joy Bell C.

And everyone saw me. Tobias saw me.
I hear footsteps. Tobias marches toward me and wrenches me to my feet.
"What the hell was that, Stiff?"
"I..." My breath comes in a hiccup. "I didn't-"
"Get yourself together! This is pathetic."
Something within me snaps. My tears stop. Heat races through my body, driving the weakness out of me, and I smack him so hard my knuckles burn with the impact. He stares at me, one side of his face bright with blush-blood, and I stare back.
"Shut up," I say. I yank my arm from his grasp and walk out of the room. Veronica Roth, Divergent

Anger, Tessa thought, was satisfying in its own way, when you gave in to it. There was something gratifying about shouting in a blind rage until your words ran out. Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Angel

I am awfully greedy; I want everything from life. I want to be a woman and to be a man, to have many friends and to have loneliness, to work much and write good books, to travel and enjoy myself, to be selfish and to be unselfish… You see, it is difficult to get all which I want. And then when I do not succeed I get mad with anger. Simonede Beauvoir

Sometimes I just want to go in a room and break things and scream. Like, it’s so much pressure all the time and if you get upset or angry, people say, ‘Are you on the rag of something?’ And it’s like I want to say, ‘No. I’m just pissed off right now. Can’t I just be pissed off? How come that’s not okay for me?’ Like my dad will say, ‘I can’t talk to you when you’re hysterical.’ And I’m totally not being hysterical! I’m just mad. And he’s the one losing it. But then I feel embarrassed anyway. So I slap on that smile and pretend everything’s okay even though it’s not. , “Sometimes I just want to go in a room and break things and scream. Like, it’s so much pressure all the time and if you get upset or angry, people say, ‘Are you on the rag of something?’ And it’s like I want to say, ‘No. I’m just pissed off right now. Can’t I just be pissed off? How come that’s not okay for me?’ Like my dad will say, ‘I can’t talk to you when you’re hysterical.’ And I’m totally not being hysterical! I’m just mad. And he’s the one losing it. But then I feel embarrassed anyway. So I slap on that smile and pretend everything’s okay even though it’s not. Libba Bray, Beauty Queens

Anger is an essential part of being human. People are taught to deny themselves anger, and in this, they are actually opening themselves up to hate. The more you deny yourself the freedom to be angry, the more you will hate. Let yourself be angry, and hate will disintegrate, and when hate disintegrates, forgiveness prevails! The more you deny that you are angry, in attempts to be "holy" the more inhuman you will become, and the more inhuman you will become, the harder it will be to forgive. C.JoyBell C.


Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com



Email Wendy now at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype

Coming shortly - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - if you would like to know more email wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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Tuesday, 24 July 2012

Fighting For Your Relationship

Marriage DayPhoto credit: Fikra


There isn't a marriage or a personal partnership relationship that doesn't hit rough water sometimes.  


Any one who has been in a long relationship knows that sometimes you can find it hard going. But relationships that have been good 
are usually worth fighting for.  Of course, at the end of the day, only you can decide whether you want to put the effort in and fight for something that has been valuable to you. 


The third edition of the what has become a classic on marriage enhancement and divorce prevention,"Fighting for Your Marriage", features the latest research and changes in culture in our society. 



New and revised, Fighting for Your Marriage, is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.

This book; 

  • Is based on more than twenty years' of university research
  • Explores how to apply the PREP approach to any marriage
  • Shows couples how to talk more and fight less, deepen and protect their friendship, and keep the fun alive
  • Reveals what it takes to have a more intimate, sensual relationship and how to clarify and act on priorities
The authors have included a wealth of techniques and down-to-earth guidance for all couples who seek to promote greater character and pleasure in their long-term relationships.


"The authors provide an encyclopedia-like wealth of information, from escaping destructive patterns to controlling conflict to playing together." (Library Journal, May 15, 2010)


"Fighting for Your Marriage" is a great book. I not only saw how my husband reacts to situations, but also saw myself very clearly. I have begun to correct my attitude and how I approach issues and have noticed a better response from him. Great exercises. I recommend this book to anyone just starting out or those individuals who have been married a long time and are struggling. (An Amazon Review)


Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com



Email Wendy now at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype

Coming shortly - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - if you would like to know more email wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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Monday, 23 July 2012

Time Management – Dealing with those Impossible Deadlines

Time Management - Dealing With Those Impossible Deadlines

You can download a free podcast from Wendy Mason on Dealing with Impossible Deadlines at this link



Do you seem to spend a lot of your time dealing with impossible deadlines? Our lives seem to be full of them! Particularly if you are ambitious and prepared to take on the interesting challenges.


What about when you find yourself rushing to get the children off on that school trip? They need all that kit and it is the day you have an urgent meeting at work. And guess what! That meeting is due to start half an hour before you usually arrive at the office!


Then there is the new project. The boss has given it you because you said you needed a challenge. And it is. It is close to “undoable” and very high profile.


So, how many other times you found yourself with an assignment that is simply impossible to finish in the time allotted?


Or, perhaps, you just have too many “urgent” tasks!


So what do you do?


Well, there are five ways you can deal with impossible deadlines:
  1. Get the deadline extended. Sometimes deadlines just cannot be changed. For example, if I need to tax my car by 31st December, then there isn't much I can do to change the deadline and stay within the law. Other deadlines have to be met because someone is depending on what we have to produce. Some times your reputation may be at risk if the deadline is missed. But quite often deadlines are set by bosses on an “I'd quite like it by then” basis. Or the deadline might be negotiable if it is a choice between this, and the deadline for another more urgent request. It is always worth investigating just why a project is quite so urgent.
  2. Make the case for more resources. If your project is so important to the organization, can you show why it makes sense to give you more help?
  3. Be prepared to delegate. You will have at least one person, and hopefully more, in your team who is ambitious. Have the confidence to share your tasks with them and share the glory - most successful organizations recognize and reward talent spotting. Do it with care but do it – you'll be surprised what it can do for morale and team performance.
  4. Scale it down to the practical. Can you change the scope of what you have been asked to do? Does it need to be so complex? Can you negotiate the requirement down – does your product need to have all those bells and whistles? Could you do or produce something simpler? What is really important about what you have been asked to produce? Get that clear and then you can begin to think about what might be left out
  5. Fess Up”. Tell your boss if you are not going to reach the deadline. Explain why and ask for help. Set it out simply – don't make excuses or blame junior members of the team. – both reflect badly on you. Go to your boss as soon as you know you are in trouble and, if possible, go with ideas for handling the situation.
Most people who take on challenging work find themselves up against impossible deadlines sometimes. What matters is how you handle it.

If you would like advice from a coach in handling your important career issues, then please get in touch. I offer a free half hour coaching session by Skype to readers of this blog.

You can download a free podcast from Wendy Mason on Dealing with Impossible Deadlines at this link



Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com
Coming shortly – Getting There With WiseWolf, the Career and Personal Development Programme – if you would like to know more emailwendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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Friday, 20 July 2012

Friday Quotes to Motivate Your Fitness Program


It's never too late to become what you might have been. George Elliot

The secret of getting ahead is getting started. Mark Twain

Ability is what you're capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it. Lou Holtz

I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. Michael Jordan

Fear is what stops you... courages is what keeps you going. Unknown

Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going. Jim Ryan

The difference between a goal and a dream is a deadline. Steve Smith

The finish line is just the beginning of a whole new race. Unknown

You want me to do something... tell me I can't do it. Maya Angelou

Just do it.™ Nike


Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com



Email Wendy now at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype

Coming shortly – Getting There With WiseWolf, the Career and Personal Development Programme – if you would like to know more emailwendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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Be Successful – Making A Personal Change – Part 7 Learning To Accept Yourself | WiseWolf Talking - the Wisewolf Coaching Blog

There is new post on our sister blog WiseWolf Talking that you might enjoy
"Everyone who has ever lived has had problems.  Having problems doesn’t make you a better or worse human being – nor does it make you different.  In fact it makes you truly a human being – someone who makes mistakes and sometimes suffers misfortune. You are not what you do or what happens to you.  You are you, and one of us, the vast human race.  But it is great that you want to change or improve something about yourself!
If you accept yourself with what you see as flaws, it means you can concentrate on problem solving.  If you can’t accept yourself you can very easily be distracted by shame and the time you spend putting yourself down...."

You can read the rest at this link Be Successful – Making A Personal Change – Part 7 Learning To Accept Yourself | WiseWolf Talking - the Wisewolf Coaching Blog

I know you can learn how to develop self-esteem and to develop self acceptance and I would like to help you.  Email me now to arrange a free half-hour taster coaching session by Skype.


Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com


Coming shortly – Getting There With WiseWolf, the Career and Personal Development Programme – if you would like to know more emailwendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

Thursday, 19 July 2012

Finding Peace in a Frantic World



Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World 


This book reveals simple but powerful practices you can use in your daily life to help break the cycle of anxiety, stress, unhappiness, and exhaustion. 

It can help you find the kind of happiness and peace that gets into your bones. It becomes part of everything you do and it can help you cope with the worst that life can throw at you with new courage and equanimity. 


The book is based on Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT). This is focused on a straightforward form of mindfulness meditation which takes just a few minutes a day.  Try it and the full benefits will be revealed. 


MBCT has been clinically proven to be at least as effective as drugs for depression and is widely recommended by US physicians and the UK's National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence.


In other words, it works. 


And it works for people who are not depressed but are struggling to keep up with the constant demands of the modern world.


MBCT was developed by the book's author, Oxford professor Mark Williams, and his colleagues at the Universities of Cambridge and Toronto. 


By investing just 10 to 20 minutes each day, you can learn the simple mindfulness meditations at the heart of MBCT and fully reap their benefits. The book includes links to audio mediations to help guide you through the process. 


You'll be surprised by how quickly these techniques will have you enjoying life again. Here is the link;


Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World





Wendy Mason is a career coach working mainly with professional women who want to make that jump to senior level while having a life outside work. Before working as a coach, Wendy had a long career in both the public and private sectors in general management and consultancy as well as spells in HR. She now divides her time between face to face coaching, and coaching and blogging on-line. You can contact Wendy at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com and find out more at http://wisewolfcoaching.com



Email Wendy now at wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com for a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype

Coming shortly - the WiseWolf Career and Personal Development Programme - if you would like to know more email wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com

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