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Friday, 26 January 2018

Finding tranquillity


Finding tranquillity 


To be tranquil is to be, calm, serene, and, in the moment, worry-free. The word tranquillity appears in lots of religious texts and particularly in Buddhism. In Buddhism the term passaddhi means the tranquillity of the body, thoughts and consciousness that is found on the path to enlightenment. Being tranquil allows you to a take rest from the periods of hard focused attention’so often required in modern life.

Research has shown that one of the best ways to find tranquility is to spend time in a natural environment. There you can allow your imagination to wander and just soak up your surroundings and a different way of being. For me, spending a little time among trees or by the sea helps me realise that life can be lived with a much longer perspective - the troubles of one day mean very little.

The first maps of tranquility were developed by Simon Rendel of ASH Consulting for a Department of Transport study in 1991. In these maps tranquil areas were defined as places sufficiently far from the visual or noise intrusion of development or traffic to be considered unspoilt by urban influences. More sophisticated mapping techniques are now available following work by researchers at Northumbria University, Newcastle University, and CPRE.

The research has shown the following factors are likely to make an area feel tranquil.

  • A natural landscape, including woodland 
  • The presence of rivers, streams, lakes or the sea 
  • Birds and other wildlife 
  • Wide open spaces 
  • The clear open night sky with or without the moon 
  • A beach in a unique location
  • Open fields, flowers etc. speically when accompanied by a gentle breeze. 
So now you know and it is time go out and find your own tranquil place.

I have a Facebook Page dedicated to finding tranquility and the quality of serenity - you will find it at this link - Unofficial Serenity

Wendy Smith is a Life Coach with Career and Business Coaching skills. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Friday, 15 December 2017

Music to help you relax - Liszt - Au lac de Wallenstad and Pastorale


The piece below is from Années de pèlerinag; Suisse by Liszt. It is played by Lazar Berman.

Années de pèlerinage (Years of Pilgrimage)  is a set of three suites for piano. The title Années de pèlerinage refers to Goethe's famous novel of self-realization, Wilhelm Meister's Journeyman Years. The original title for that was Wilhelm Meisters Wanderjahre which meant Years of Wandering or Years of Pilgrimage. Here are Liszt's words on these suites

"Having recently travelled to many new countries, through different settings and places consecrated by history and poetry; having felt that the phenomena of nature and their attendant sights did not pass before my eyes as pointless images but stirred deep emotions in my soul, and that between us a vague but immediate relationship had established itself, an undefined but real rapport, an inexplicable but undeniable communication, I have tried to portray in music a few of my strongest sensations and most lively impressions."

In her Mémoires, Liszt's mistress and traveling companion of the time, Marie d'Agoult, recalls their time by Lake Wallenstadt, writing, "Franz wrote for me there a melancholy harmony, imitative of the sigh of the waves and the cadence of oars, which I have never been able to hear without weeping."

Enjoy the music



With thanks to YouTube and Wikipedia

Sunday, 4 June 2017

Learning the Art of Stillness

A TED talk from travel writer Pico Iyer on the benefits of reflection, stillness and mindfulness! Time to take back a few minutes out of every day, or a few days out of every season. It's the talk for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the demands for our world.


Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search - you can find all her books on Amazon at this link

         


Wednesday, 3 May 2017

Active Listening and Good Communication

Active Listening and good communicationBuilding relationships at work and at home depends upon good communication. This includes the ability to really "hear" what the other person is trying to say. if you practice the skill of active listening, you will be able to communicate better.

In coaching we spend a lot of time thinking about active listening – for us it is a core skill. Active listening is hearing with engagement. In active listening you work to not just to hear the words, but to understand exactly what the other person is trying to say.

Active listening helps the other person to feel appreciated and respected. It helps them to have trust.

Active listening is a skill that requires practice but here are some tips to help you on your way.

  1. Position - be somewhere where you can see and be seen by your hearer for important messages. Talking one to one, or in small groups, sit up straight or lean forward slightly to show your attentiveness through body language.
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Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search - you can find all her books on Amazon at this link

         

Friday, 21 April 2017

The Resilient Mindset – don’t let a fixed mindset defeat you

The Resilient Mindset – don’t let a fixed mindset defeat you

How to thrive in times of change

This is a challenging time for all of us. For many times are hard and the world has become a frightening place. So can you survive mentally intact and thrive?

How do you develop a resilient mindset?

Well accepting that we all have core values that we want to carry through life, most other parts of our thinking can changed. And a mind that is prepared to change and take on the requirements of new circumstances has most chance of staying intact. It is time to learn to challenge your own thinking.

A fixed mindset will chatter away in your head, if you let it.  It will tell you all the reasons why you shouldn't change. It is also likely to fill your head with negativity. It will tell you why you are not up tot he task of change. An, slowly it will erode your confidence.

The nasty fixed mindset will tell you that even if you wanted to change, you couldn’t do it! It might whisper that you’re not bright enough! You are not strong strong enough!  Or it might hint that if you change people won't love you any more.

Now sit back coolly and start answering back. Are any of those doubts founded in reality? Think of things that you have achieved in the past.


Time for you to start answering back.


“Well I’m certainly bright enough – if I see the need for change, I’m bright enough to do it.  I can learn and I can find people who will help and advise me.  I can learn and the people about me will probably like the new me! If not, well they will have to accept I have the right to be happy.”

You fixed mindset will probably answer; “But what happens if and when you fail?

So here is your defense.  “Everyone fails sometimes. But I’ll do it well and I’ll manage the risks – so I’ve got every chance of success.”

“But” says your fixed mindset, “if you don’t make the change, you can’t fail.”

“No, but, if I don’t try, I’ve failed already!

Now your fixed mindset sneers and becomes cunning.  “Oh so it is going to be easy for you then!”

You smile wryly.  “No it isn’t going to be easy.  Nothing worth having comes easy. I’m going to do it anyway”

Push the negativity back into the shadows where it deserves to be! If you keep beating it back, at some point your fixed mindset will slink away.  It won’t be dead. It may emerge occasionally when you are feeling tired or frustrated. But you have the upper hand now.  You know you have to find the energy to take up your sword and beat it back into the shadows again.

With practice you can learn to think positively and confidently about your change.  You will develop a resilient mindset.

You can do it! You can make the change you desire – it is time to start believing. Reach for your sword and begin practicing.

Wendy Smith is a career consultant, life coach and business coach with depth of experience in organisational development, management, coaching and personal development. That experience
means she is equally at home helping clients find a new career direction, starting-up new businesses or dealing with life’s more challenging personal issues. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wendy has written a little eBook on how to get on with your boss and a book on job search - you can find all her books on Amazon at this link