Your Happiness Factor

Your Happiness Factor:celebrating happiness, prosperity, hearth and home, good health.

Wednesday, 3 August 2016

Getting to know people and making assumptions!

Getting to know people and making assumptions

Most of us encounter lots of other people all the time in our everyday life.  We pass them in the street. We sit in the same cinema, or  work in the same building. And some among them, we actually start to acknowledge and get to know. We begin to recognise their faces, the shapes of their bodies and how they move. We start to make assumptions about them, usually based on our very first encounter with them.

In fact most of us make up our minds in the first few seconds of the encounter. Based on the clothes they are wearing on that particular day and the expression of their face, we decide. Is this someone I am likely to trust and want to know better? And we act on what we think are the answers to those questions, based on our assumptions.
What we are doing, of course, is taking a few stray facts and fitting them into our own patterns of belief. We base those beliefs;

  • on what we were told by our parents and others when we are young, 
  • on what we have read or been taught formally 
  • on what we have experienced (increasingly on tv, in the media or on-line).
Interesting this isn't it? This is what we do. So, what do you think other people do when they encounter us?

Well of course, they to make assumptions too. They set us up against their personal frame of reference!

Now, you and I both know that the frame of reference we use can be quite risky.

Most of us have picked all kind of prejudices and bits of wrong information along the way. For example, women of my mother's generation had the most awful suspicions of other women in red hats. I won't go into the detail but it wasn't very nice.

Most of the time we apply our frame of reference without conscious thought or question.

You can change. You can learn to hold back on making those kind of immediate judgements, if you wish. And I believe that is a very wise thing to do. Otherwise what interesting opportunities you may miss in life. What good people you may exclude.
It is wise as well, though, to keep in mind that people are making those kind of assumptions about us.. And we need to do our best to make sure that that first, abiding, impression is one we actually choose to make.

Wendy Smith is a Life Coach with Career and Business Coaching
career coach, life coach
skills. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work while maintaining a good work/life balance. 

You can email her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

or book your free taster coaching session with Wendy here

Tuesday, 12 July 2016

Is your tiredness due to dehydration?

Is your tiredness due to dehydration?

A recent survey found that one in five people suffering from fatigue were actually dehydrated. Usually this was because they were not drinking enough.

When you don't get enough fluids, the amount of blood in your blood vessels drops and your heart has to pump extra hard to pump blood round your body.  Remember we are made up of 70% water and all parts of your body, including essential organs like your brain, depend upon it. So drinking plenty of fluid is important.

But keep in mind that coffee and alcohol are diuretics and they actually dehydrate the body, So you need to balance them by drinking lots of good, fresh, water.

When you are dehydrated, you may feel weak and your urine is likely to be dark instead of pale yellow. 

Eating five portions of fruit and vegetables each day will help because they contain water. You should also drink 2 litres of water
every day - spread it through the day by drinking 200ml every 10 hours, if you can.

If you are worried about your tiredness, or this doesn't help, please consult your physician or health professional.

Wendy Smtith is a Life Coach with Career and Business Coaching skills. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Book your free taster coaching session with Wendy here

Tuesday, 5 July 2016

Wash away that negativity!

Wash away that negativity!


Many religions incorporate ritual washing in water as an act of purification. Some use water specially prepared for the purpose but at the end of the day it is water that is being used.

Water is so important to human survival that in many parts of the world springs and wells are places of special significance and often regarded as holy. In the Japanese religion of Shinto waterfalls are held sacred and standing under them is believed to purify.

We know that water cleanses as well as sustaining us. So why not use water in a new way in your
own life. When you feel negative or angry, use your own water ritual to change how you feel. Find somewhere to wash your hands in cool, clean, running, water. As you do so, feel the freshness flowing to you and the negativity flowing away.

If you can be out in the open air and do this in stream that is wonderful. If you can’t even get to a tap, then how about using a bottle of water poured slowly over your hands with a clear intention to wash away the negativity.

This could bring a whole new meaning to the morning shower and its ability to help you make a good start to the day.

Just the sight and sound of water can be relaxing – try the video below, courtesy of YouTube


Wendy Smith is a Life Coach with Career and Business Coaching skills. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Book your free taster coaching session with Wendy here

Saturday, 2 July 2016

Music for Saturday -Satie with Mark Roberts' Paintings

Something rather lovely below to help you relax - Satie Gymnopedie 1,2,3 Gnossienne 1,2,3,4 (you'll recognise the music) with Mark Roberts' paintings https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DR2DbU5Uq-4



Éric Alfred Leslie Satie (17 May 1866 – 1 July 1925), who signed his name Erik Satie after 1884, was a French composer and pianist. Satie was a colourful figure in the early 20th century Parisian avant-garde. His work was a precursor to later artistic movements such as minimalism, Surrealism, repetitive music, and the Theatre of the Absurd.

An eccentric, Satie was introduced as a "gymnopedist" in 1887, shortly before writing his most famous compositions, the Gymnopédies. Later, he also referred to himself as a "phonometrician" (meaning "someone who measures sounds"), preferring this designation to that of "musician", after having been called "a clumsy but subtle technician" in a book on contemporary French composers published in 1911.

Presently, Mark Roberts teaches at the Academy of Art University in San Francisco and at Las Positas College in Livermore. He also teaches privately to a loyal group of local painters and holds workshops, some of which have taken him to locations such as Costa Rica. Mark Roberts is an artist member of the California Art Club, Oil Painters of America and Arts Benicia. He exhibited at the California Art Club's 89th, 91st, 92nd, 94th, 95th, 96th, 98th and 100th Annual Gold Medal Exhibitions. Robert's paintings can be found in private and public collections nationwide in the US. Roberts' portraits are naturalistic, yet they possess a dream like quality. They are conceived as color symphonies or arrangements much as Whistler had done.



You can find out more about Mark here http://www.markrobertsfineart.com/bio.html and Satie, here https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erik_Satie

Wendy Smith is a Life Coach with Career and Business Coaching skills. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Wednesday, 29 June 2016

Your Emotions - When You Feel Hurt

Your Emotions – When You Feel Hurt!

When you feel hurt you are usually responding to what you see as an injustice. Usually you feel hurt when you feel something isn’t fair - someone has let you down or treated you in a way you feel is not right.

Often, when you feel hurt you will withdraw from the person who has hurt you and stop all communication with them. Others might see this as resentment or
aloofness and some see you as sulking.

Please don't Sulk!

Sulking can be silent sulking or it might be angry, noisy sulking with the slamming of doors and much huffing and puffing.

Sometimes you just snipe at someone close to you without saying why.  "Surely, if he loved me enough He would know why!"

Often behavior like this is about getting even or punishing – at the very least you want an apology.

But sulking rarely achieves the outcome that you want. It can make you more miserable than the person you believe has transgressed.

Overcome hurt

To overcome hurt, it is best to find out what really happened. You may not have been let down at all.

But, if you feel you have, it is worth keeping in mind that, at the end of the day, the world does not have to be fair. Really, there is no rule that says you must
be treated in a particular way.  If you keep this in mind, other people may disappoint you but you are much less likely to get hurt.

Instead of sulking it is best to tell the other person quietly, firmly and calmly what you didn’t like.  Then you can explain what change you would like them to make. 

Keep talking and listen carefully to what they have to say.  You may have to negotiate but happiness lies in the common ground.

Then, look after you.  Award yourself brownie points and treat yourself to some
time doing what you really enjoy.  A warm bath and a good book, can work wonders.

If you would like support handling those big emotions please get in touch.  My email address is below.



Wendy Smith is a Life Coach with Career and Business Coaching skills. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Enhanced by Zemanta