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Friday, 13 March 2015

Are You a Nervous Networker? Tips to Help.

Are You a Nervous Networker? Tips to Help.

Are you one of those rare (and very lucky ) people who enjoys networking?   Or do you arrive at a networking event, look around at the sea of faces, then find yourself overwhelmed by a stream of doubts and uncertainties? Here are some tips to help

Negative self talk can tell you that you’re a fraud and everyone else in the room is just great.  There they are, experienced business professionals, at home in this environment.  While you feel like you are just pretending and you don’t really know what you are doing!

On top of that you think you are going to forget what to say. You won’t remember anyone else’s name and there is a very good chance you will forget your own!

The “sensible” part of you tells you not to be so silly.  But there you are with all these negative thoughts and anxieties in your head. 


Well it doesn't have to be like that. These tips will help! 


Relax and take a deep breath, then tell your brain it has more important things to think about! No, you are not going to have a heart attack as you take the floor.  You’ve got this under control!  
  1. Relax, take a deep breath, and smile!  Taking in Oxygen deeply can steady nerves and lower your heart rate!  Smiling releases endorphin and makes you feel more comfortable.
  2. Practice positive self-talk.  We all have some negative thoughts.  Be conscious of them and then cut them off.  Recognize them for what they are.  Then replace them.  As you approach the event fill your head with the repeated thought that you are confident and successful;  People like you.  Tell yourself firmly that you are going to do well and that people will be impressed.  Say it very loudly and firmly in your own head.  You can say out it loud in private at home before you go as well – repeat, repeat, repeat!  
  3. Have a great elevator speech and practice it ahead of time. This is a short paragraph or two that describes who you are and what your business does.  Give it punch - make it interesting, informative, and memorable.  Practice delivering it at home with confidence and don’t rush.
  4. Be memorable. What is it about you and/or your job/business that makes you unique? Work it out then be quite clear about it.  Don’t be afraid to tell people – make it part of your branding
  5. Have good contact material! Make sure you always carry business cards with you with up-to-date contact information. It is worth investing in a good business card that you feel proud of.  They will help you to feel very comfortable handing them out at events.
  6. Be yourself and show an interest in others. Expect people to like you – tell yourself they will.  People like people who show an interest in them, and that is what you are going to do.  Remember you are bringing them a gift - your talents and experience and there can be no one else just like you! Listen more then you speak. You'll be surprised how much people appreciate a good listener.
Now you are ready to get started.  Off you go and enjoy your networking.  If you feel networking is particularly difficult for you, then please get in touch. I'm life coach who specializes in helping people to feel more confident.   


10801706_10205372103244677_2990750892488570962_nWendy Smith (formerly Wendy Mason) is  a life coach and writer committed to helping people be happy and fulfilled at home and at work. You can contact her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Thursday, 16 October 2014

The Keys

The Keys


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Don't worry about what other people think of you. 

They don't know what's going on in your life, just like you don't know what's going on in theirs. People are generally self-indulgent. If they're not buried into something on their phone, don't have headphones on or in, I can almost guarantee that they are worrying about themselves. 

We are selfish creatures. It's in our nature to worry about ourselves, first and foremost. Will I get to work on time? Is this outfit ok? Who knows what they are worried about?
The people you admire on a bus or wherever mess up as much as you do or have, they're just experienced enough and better at hiding the cracks. Who's to say that composed, beautiful girl that you see every day doesn't cry herself to sleep? 

A lot goes on behind closed doors that we cannot bear witness to. We all have issues both ongoing or one-offs. You cannot control how a particular issue will affect someone else. 

Only you have the power to control yourself and how you behave/act. The keys to your life are in your hand.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Thursday, 9 October 2014

Wednesday, 8 October 2014

Your happiness counts.

Your happiness counts

Another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

You don't think it does, or that your happiness makes a difference to everyone around you? 

When you are happy, radiance shines from within you. You are much better company when you are happy. Think about it, if you're down in the dumps about something people are less likely to want to hang out with you. 

So be happy, if not for yourself than others. 

You're never going to get this moment back, so go on crack on a smile. Worrying is not good for you, and I know there are thousands of things to worry about, but if we let it go and relax things just might fall into place and be how they're supposed to be. Worrying will not warrant this nor chase it away.  Worrying won't do anything to change the situation. 

One of my favourite quotes is: "Every sixty seconds you spend angry is a minute of happiness you won't get back."

If you worry about what other people are thinking you're not living. Live for you, take the chances you want to take, because life is too short to be stuck in a rut. Other people are strangers for a reason. You'll more than likely never see that person you passed by on the street again. & even if you do, they're unlikely to remember how you appeared (if you appeared bad or anything) in that instance.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Friday, 3 October 2014

Do you have emotional intelligence - what is your emotional intelligence quotient?

Do you have emotional intelligence - what is your emotional intelligence quotient?

"All learning has an emotional base."
-- Plato


The ability to express and control our own emotions is important to our success in life. But so is our ability to understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others. Imagine a world where you couldn't understand when a friend was feeling sad or when a co-worker was angry. Psychologists refer to this ability as emotional intelligence (EI).

Emotional Intelligence refers to the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions - your own and other peoples'. Some researchers suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others claim it is an inborn characteristic. 

A number of testing instruments have been developed to measure emotional intelligence, although the content and approach of each test varies. The quiz at the link below presents a mix of self-report and situational questions related to various aspects of emotional intelligence. 

Do you have emotional intelligence - what is your emotional intelligence quotient? Take the quiz at the link below from http://psychology.about.com/ to learn more.


Take the test: http://psychology.about.com/library/quiz/bl_eq_quiz.htm