Thursday, 24 July 2014

Don't let the smallest thing ruin your day

Don't let the smallest thing ruin your day


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos


If one bad happens in a day try not to let it affect the day’s productiveness. 


We've all had days when a bad thing happens first thing and the whole day is ruined because of it. But if you just refocus on the positive after the downfall – whatever it may be – you can turn a downward turn into an upward one. 

Everyone fails at something in their life – a mis-venture or makes a million mistakes – there’s no plain sailing in life, even if it looks to be on the surface. You can never really tell what’s on someone else’s mind unless they tell you. Nor what’s bubbling beneath the surface of a smile. So try to be kind.

One of my core beliefs is there is an opportunity in every situation and due to this, a positive. That’s why I have a single sticky note on my mirror in my bedroom asking ‘What’s the opportunity in this?’ It may be small, but there is an opportunity in every situation. Perhaps it’s only the opportunity to make it easier tomorrow or the opportunity to know what to do when/if it happens next time. There’s also a positive to be found.
 In everything you do. Yes that’s right. I said it. It is true. 

Even if you fail at something, it’ll teach you a lesson for the future, even if it isn’t relevant right now some good will come from it. Whether it’s just a lesson you keep in your memory that makes you stronger – or something that weaves itself into what you do with the rest of your life – like in my lyric writing or my How To Sundays (on my blog) where I have touched on being bullied at a young age and broken hearts. They’ve all helped me become who I am today. And I don’t regret one piece of it. They only made me stronger. And that’s what mistakes do too. 

You are never a failure. Do not ever let yourself feel like one. We are all human – we are all entitle to make mistakes. It’s a part of life. And that will never change  - unless we all become robots and live perfectly and that wouldn’t be fun for anybody!


Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Life is unpredictable.

Life is unpredictable.


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Life is unpredictable. Good times won’t last so you need to capture them so you can focus on them at bad times. 

Just as good times don’t last, bad times don’t last either. I know it feels never-ending when you are going through a rough patch but believing that things will get better will push good things and times to the forefront. To do this, you need to become more aware of the negative thoughts you let in and stop letting them in. This may seem odd, but in being positive you need to outweigh the negative thoughts in your mind, so first you must be able to recognise the negative thoughts that trouble you every day. 

In the light of the negativity, you need to find a positive or something that can, or will be helpful if you let it, in the long run to the situation you are in. Just because the positive or helpful thing isn't working out right now, doesn't mean it won't. The more you do this, the more this kind of thinking will become natural. Soon your mind will operate more positively, no matter the situation. 

You're not alone with your insecurities. 

We all have something we don't like about ourselves. And you can fix them with plastic surgery (way too expensive) or you learn to live with your faults and hopefully turn it (or them) into a positive. Because if you don't, they will haunt you your entire life. Someone I know doesn't like the way they appear in photos because of their teeth. They only like their smile if it's with their mouth shut, so they incorporate that into most pictures taken. And it works. Take me - I always wanted brown eyes and brown hair - there's not much I can do about the eyes - granted I could go for contact lenses - but I think it's take me ages to work out and my eyes are better blue. But I did dye my hair which made me feel a lot more like me - I've always likened blonde hair to some form of perfection and I didn't want to be that 'perfect' girl anymore.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Thursday, 10 July 2014

Caring is not needing to please x

Caring is not needing to please x

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

We care too much about what others think of us because we have little confidence in what we do and who we are. 

You might disagree with me, wearing a mask of confidence, often people pretend they are confident in what they do hoping that confidence will transfer to who they are. That's the wrong order. You have to be Ok and confident in who you are before you can be confident in what you do. Otherwise you're faking. People won't like admitting it. But you, you are strong enough to admit that confidence can't grow this way. 

Confidence grows out of you accepting yourself, all your faults and working them to your benefit. So it's good to strip away every lie you tell yourself and start over. 

You might be stressing that it'll take too long - and you're busy - but wait a minute we all are. It's an ongoing endeavour - to be confident. It doesn't come overnight. Hopefully people will encourage and lift you up, but if they don't - if they tear you down - just think and believe that you are someone to proud of (if you need to repeat it every day to yourself to ingrain it into your soul - do - because your heart will thank you for speaking the truth). 

Don't you know that you are spectacular? Don't disagree with me, you know it's true. 

The confidence will grow like a flower - once you believe in who you are.

Like a flower growing - we don't see it growing with the naked eye - and often it blooms before we notice it - and this is like confidence. What you believe is often more powerful than anything - so get to the point of believing in you - it isn't easy and it does take time - but it's so worth it. 

Confidence springs from believing in yourself. You have to be Ok with you - how you are and who you are - first, and build confidence from that. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 1 July 2014

Stop wishing your life away


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

We are all at different stages of our lives - every minute (second) of every day.

Just because you haven't had what someone else had by this stage in their life doesn't make it wrong and most importantly, it doesn't make you weak. I'm quite relieved that I didn't have to go through everything that Harry Potter did by the time I was eighteen. I know you're saying 'He's a literary character' but you know what I mean.

Wishing your life away until you have what someone else has got is not good for you.


It's not good for your health. We all get handed different opportunities and some we seize and some we don't. This can be for many reasons ie. the timing's not right etc. But there's a reason for it. Heck, no one knows what it is. In later life it may become apparent why in later life and if it does hopefully it will be worth it. So don't you want to wait for those days? Aren't they worth it? To hopefully come to a day when everything makes sense? 

It's YOUR time so do whatever you have to to be happy, don't live in someone's shadow. The  time to stop hiding is NOW!

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Monday, 16 June 2014

There are positive outcomes


There are positive outcomes

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Very few people have confidence in happiness. They believe that you have to work for it, that it can't just come out of nowhere. But that's the beautiful thing about life. You just need to be able to let things go and enjoy the little things in life. I think our generation has gotten very reliant on the impression we give others that we fail to notice the beauty around us. Look up from your phone, because you'll never know what chances are passing you by while you're trying to impress your friends. Why do we even need to impress our friends? They're friends of ours for a reason, we don't have to impress them every minute of the day. That's just what I think anyway.

Negativity sticks out. That's why we see it and ignore the positive outcomes which evolve at the same time. As a human race, we've been programmed to see things fit together. So when they don't, when the pieces of negativity stick out we latch ourselves onto those bits for fear of getting left behind in a whirlwind. But it's time like these we just need to loosen the grip a little bit at least, bec ause we miss so much while we're pursuing something else. If we look at every situation negatively why are we surprised that we get negative outcomes? If you look negatively at stuff the outcome will always be negative. So try looking at stuff positively. You can't just change your mind in a night. It takes time. You've actually got to believe that it can have a positive outcome. Sometimes it still will turn out negatively. There's nothing you can do about that. But having a brighter frame of mind, while not always easy, will set you up for a good day and though it may not always work out in a positive way, at least you know that there was nothing you could have done. It's the law of attraction, your thoughts are more powerful than you know. 


Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos