Friday, 29 August 2014

You are too hard on yourself!

You are too hard on yourself!

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos
Believe it or not, some days you might sink low and believe everyone else is better than you. And that's okay. 
Everyone has a different story to tell and just because you don't have what you want right now doesn't mean it won't come to the light and/or you can't or won't get it.
It's not too late!
Make the choice today to be what you want to.
Other people might try to put you off doing a particular thing; you've just got to stand up for yourself and be proud. It might not be what they would do in your situation, but everybody is different. People will try to dampen your dreams but don't let them.
Just hold your head up high. You know where you're going. You know what you want and though you may not know how to go about getting it right now - that's Ok. Life is something we learn on the job. 
That is true of our dreams too. Oftentimes people give up on their dreams because they no longer believe themselves capable of it. People will have told them it's unrealistic and lost their belief in it long before life has gotten in the way.
There are fighters though. If you are one, you will have had to grit your teeth sometimes and just be confident enough to listen to your heart instead of your head. It isn't just other people who will try to dampen your hopes and dreams. Everyone has a voice inside their heads but that is an inside critic and one you can answer very firmly.
Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 19 August 2014

Situations arise at any time

Situations can arise at any time. 


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

You can never be sure when something will strike.

You can be dealing with a big problematic event when little ones can occur and you think it’s just to rub it in. I know it can feel burden-heavy. But that’s Ok. Feeling weighed down is not good for you, so try to take everything one step at a time. But I know it’s a real pain when everything comes at the same time. That’s how life seems to work; I see it as a positive thing. 

When you’re in the midst of things; challenges and the like, problems that would have otherwise held you up are accomplished without much thought. You don't even recognise how much you accomplish. The things that would usually swamp you, you just do because there's no way around it. 

So at hard times give yourself some credit. You've probably done something that you thought you weren't capable of years ago. Maybe you're finding things you used to do with ease a bit of a struggle now - that's Ok. Things change. And just because you can't do something as easily as you used to doesn't mean your inferior or not useful anymore - it just means it's time to slow down.

Having an overall plan is a good thing

Having an overall plan is a good thing, like where you want to go and what you want to do in life, but planning everyday in intimate detail is a downfall in my eyes. You can't account for everything that occurs in life. You might have to put plans on hold for a while, because something different has happened now. 

Things arise all the time that you never thought could/would happen. Life is not always under our control. And that is frustrating. And we can't always do much to change that. Accept life as it comes and treat any little bump as you would naturally. Don't let it change who you are.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 


Monday, 28 July 2014

The Women Left



The Women Left

Here is a short poem I wrote a while ago now and it appears on one of my poetry blogs (Dreaming in Purple and Grey). Now it is my way of marking this year's special anniversary. I grew up in the 50s and 60s and I heard many stories of women who lost their men in the first World War and how they suffered.  My aunt lost her "young man".  She never spoke of it and she never married.  There was no one to marry; a generation had been lost. But the women who had it hardest were the widows of "other ranks" who were left with children to care for and little or no support.

This poem is for them.

The Women Left


And we the women left
Make lives for ourselves.
Brave women we,
The women left.
Like flotsam on a stony shore,
We shouldn't be here.
Discarded parts!
Our seasoned wood
Has gone beyond its season.
But still we scrub and clean
And make our knuckles raw
With all your dirty laundry.
If not, who'll feed our kids?
Brave women, we
The women left.

Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Writer

Thursday, 24 July 2014

Don't let the smallest thing ruin your day

Don't let the smallest thing ruin your day


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos


If one bad happens in a day try not to let it affect the day’s productiveness. 


We've all had days when a bad thing happens first thing and the whole day is ruined because of it. But if you just refocus on the positive after the downfall – whatever it may be – you can turn a downward turn into an upward one. 

Everyone fails at something in their life – a mis-venture or makes a million mistakes – there’s no plain sailing in life, even if it looks to be on the surface. You can never really tell what’s on someone else’s mind unless they tell you. Nor what’s bubbling beneath the surface of a smile. So try to be kind.

One of my core beliefs is there is an opportunity in every situation and due to this, a positive. That’s why I have a single sticky note on my mirror in my bedroom asking ‘What’s the opportunity in this?’ It may be small, but there is an opportunity in every situation. Perhaps it’s only the opportunity to make it easier tomorrow or the opportunity to know what to do when/if it happens next time. There’s also a positive to be found.
 In everything you do. Yes that’s right. I said it. It is true. 

Even if you fail at something, it’ll teach you a lesson for the future, even if it isn’t relevant right now some good will come from it. Whether it’s just a lesson you keep in your memory that makes you stronger – or something that weaves itself into what you do with the rest of your life – like in my lyric writing or my How To Sundays (on my blog) where I have touched on being bullied at a young age and broken hearts. They’ve all helped me become who I am today. And I don’t regret one piece of it. They only made me stronger. And that’s what mistakes do too. 

You are never a failure. Do not ever let yourself feel like one. We are all human – we are all entitle to make mistakes. It’s a part of life. And that will never change  - unless we all become robots and live perfectly and that wouldn’t be fun for anybody!


Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Life is unpredictable.

Life is unpredictable.


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Life is unpredictable. Good times won’t last so you need to capture them so you can focus on them at bad times. 

Just as good times don’t last, bad times don’t last either. I know it feels never-ending when you are going through a rough patch but believing that things will get better will push good things and times to the forefront. To do this, you need to become more aware of the negative thoughts you let in and stop letting them in. This may seem odd, but in being positive you need to outweigh the negative thoughts in your mind, so first you must be able to recognise the negative thoughts that trouble you every day. 

In the light of the negativity, you need to find a positive or something that can, or will be helpful if you let it, in the long run to the situation you are in. Just because the positive or helpful thing isn't working out right now, doesn't mean it won't. The more you do this, the more this kind of thinking will become natural. Soon your mind will operate more positively, no matter the situation. 

You're not alone with your insecurities. 

We all have something we don't like about ourselves. And you can fix them with plastic surgery (way too expensive) or you learn to live with your faults and hopefully turn it (or them) into a positive. Because if you don't, they will haunt you your entire life. Someone I know doesn't like the way they appear in photos because of their teeth. They only like their smile if it's with their mouth shut, so they incorporate that into most pictures taken. And it works. Take me - I always wanted brown eyes and brown hair - there's not much I can do about the eyes - granted I could go for contact lenses - but I think it's take me ages to work out and my eyes are better blue. But I did dye my hair which made me feel a lot more like me - I've always likened blonde hair to some form of perfection and I didn't want to be that 'perfect' girl anymore.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos