Thursday, 18 September 2014

Underestimation: we all do it

Underestimation: we all do it

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

"Normal" people underestimate their impact on the world and the people around them. 

Generally "we" think that what we do on a daily/regular basis is boring/nothing new. Please give yourself some credit. 

Congratulate yourself for the fact that you woke up today, the fact that you are carrying on this fight. 

Congratulate yourself because you deserve to, especially if you don't have anyone around who can or will show you how much they appreciate it. Other people do appreciate what you are doing, though they mightn't say it or appear grateful. 

And what you are doing may not change the world tomorrow or the next day, but eventually. It may take the world years/decades/even longer to recognise that what you do is significant, but it will happen. 

There are over 8 billion people on this planet, so it will take some time for everyone to have their moment but there will come a time! And if you only get to change the worlds of a few people, think how much happier their lives are now.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Friday, 12 September 2014

Never Regular, Spectacular

Never Regular, Spectacular!

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

You're not like everyone else. 


This world is full of people saying you have to fit into a category or something but please don't be sucked into being someone you're not to please others. You can't please everyone. You're not meant to. 

Someone in the world will find a fault in your perfection. That's the way it is. Our perfection is so different to other people's. And that's Ok. That's the way it's meant to be. What's special to us is different to others. That's how it's meant to be. Otherwise everyone would be fighting for the same thing. And it's good we're not. You just want to be noticed. You are being seen, by the people that matter. And right now, it's only your family and friends. And you wish it was more. But that's enough. 

Life gives us what we can manage. Just because you're not known all over the world yet doesn't mean you won't be. 

A film I was watching recently has the line 'Never Regular, Spectacular' from the film 'Jack' starring Robin Williams. It really struck a chord. It's true. Something that is part of everyday life for you, is spectacular, inconceivable or unbelievable to someone else. You think everything you do is just normal? Think of everything you've dealt with in your past to get you t now. That's pretty amazing. 

Please take pride in what you do. There is someone who you don't even know who thinks what you do is Spectacular. Someone is always looking up to you, don't let that person down. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Friday, 5 September 2014

Finding your quiet place!

Finding your quiet place!

Lots of us have one already – a quiet place that we like to visit or at the very least remember. It can be a great source of solace when times are hard. Or simply when things are a bit fraught.

But do you know that your quiet place doesn't have to be out there? It can just as easily be inside you if you take the time to find it. And once found, of course, it becomes completely portable. You can take it with as you travel about your busy life.

To find your quiet place you need first to find a somewhere to do the work. Find a room or open space that feels safe for you. Sit comfortably. Now follow these simple steps.

·         Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth slowly.
·         Fill up the whole of your lungs with air, without forcing.
·         Imagine you're filling up a bottle, so that your lungs fill from the bottom.
·         Breathe in slowly and regularly counting from one to five (don’t worry if you can’t reach five at first).
·         Then let the breath escape slowly, counting from one to five.
·         Keep doing this until you feel calm.
·         Breathe without pausing or holding your breath.

While you are doing this concentrate completely on your breathing – let the thought of your breath fill you heart and mind completely!

Once you are relaxed, rest there in the peace and silence for a little while. You have found your quiet place.
The more you practice the easier it will become to go to your quiet place. And, with practice, you will find you can go there easily wherever your body happens to be at the time.


Enjoy, we all need our own, private, quiet place.

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Friday, 29 August 2014

You are too hard on yourself!

You are too hard on yourself!

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos
Believe it or not, some days you might sink low and believe everyone else is better than you. And that's okay. 
Everyone has a different story to tell and just because you don't have what you want right now doesn't mean it won't come to the light and/or you can't or won't get it.
It's not too late!
Make the choice today to be what you want to.
Other people might try to put you off doing a particular thing; you've just got to stand up for yourself and be proud. It might not be what they would do in your situation, but everybody is different. People will try to dampen your dreams but don't let them.
Just hold your head up high. You know where you're going. You know what you want and though you may not know how to go about getting it right now - that's Ok. Life is something we learn on the job. 
That is true of our dreams too. Oftentimes people give up on their dreams because they no longer believe themselves capable of it. People will have told them it's unrealistic and lost their belief in it long before life has gotten in the way.
There are fighters though. If you are one, you will have had to grit your teeth sometimes and just be confident enough to listen to your heart instead of your head. It isn't just other people who will try to dampen your hopes and dreams. Everyone has a voice inside their heads but that is an inside critic and one you can answer very firmly.
Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 19 August 2014

Situations arise at any time

Situations can arise at any time. 


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

You can never be sure when something will strike.

You can be dealing with a big problematic event when little ones can occur and you think it’s just to rub it in. I know it can feel burden-heavy. But that’s Ok. Feeling weighed down is not good for you, so try to take everything one step at a time. But I know it’s a real pain when everything comes at the same time. That’s how life seems to work; I see it as a positive thing. 

When you’re in the midst of things; challenges and the like, problems that would have otherwise held you up are accomplished without much thought. You don't even recognise how much you accomplish. The things that would usually swamp you, you just do because there's no way around it. 

So at hard times give yourself some credit. You've probably done something that you thought you weren't capable of years ago. Maybe you're finding things you used to do with ease a bit of a struggle now - that's Ok. Things change. And just because you can't do something as easily as you used to doesn't mean your inferior or not useful anymore - it just means it's time to slow down.

Having an overall plan is a good thing

Having an overall plan is a good thing, like where you want to go and what you want to do in life, but planning everyday in intimate detail is a downfall in my eyes. You can't account for everything that occurs in life. You might have to put plans on hold for a while, because something different has happened now. 

Things arise all the time that you never thought could/would happen. Life is not always under our control. And that is frustrating. And we can't always do much to change that. Accept life as it comes and treat any little bump as you would naturally. Don't let it change who you are.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos