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Wednesday, 26 March 2014

You Gain Strength

You Gain Strength

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

There will be times when situations look and feel negative. We can’t help it. It’s human nature. 

For a moment, just pull yourself out of the situation and think about it. Try to steer your thoughts in a positive direction. It isn’t easy to stop doubting yourself for any reason, but it is so worth it when you do.

It’s a hard habit to break. But once you start thinking positively more positive things will happen in your life. It isn’t an immediate response though. You just have to believe that the more positive you think, the more positive the outcomes of your endeavours will be. It’s not going to be an overnight phenomenon. Sadly it takes time. But be confident that thinking positively will bring more positive situations to light. Even when you feel your caught in a chasm, as we often do, just look at with a positive mind and great things will come. 

You might not get to where you want to be immediately, it does take time to get there and hearsay. Be open to help from all over the place your friends, family or even strangers.


Our fears are exaggerated. They usually are anyway. How many times have you done something you dreaded yet come away thinking it wasn’t that bad? How do we overcome this? By facing our fears! It’s not as scary as it sounds. I know it doesn’t feel like it but everyone is in the same boat. 

Just for a second, I’d like you to imagine yourself without fears. It wouldn’t make you, you. And if we didn’t have fears, life wouldn’t be challenging. Challenges make life interesting, versatile and are the reasons your journey is so different or similar to mine. But nobody’s backstory is the same. That’s what makes life fascinating and perhaps, if you’re a writer like me, note-worthy. No one can tell the same story.

It’s like when you read a book, you might not pick out the section that I find interesting. We all have different tastes and there’s nothing wrong with that. There will always be someone who doesn’t like what you like, but when you come across this person or people you just need to have the confidence to say: ‘This won’t shake me. I’m built of stronger matter than that.’

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 25 March 2014

Finding and Keeping Good Friends

Finding and Keeping Good Friends

 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home.

Finding and keeping good friends has two parts to it
  1. What draws us to people
  2. What seals the friendship

What draws us to someone?


We meet lots of people in life but for most us very few become frends. These seem to be the things that draw into becoming friend with people.

Shared interests and values

We usually need to find we have something in common with people in order to become friend. This is usually in terms of the kinds of things we enjoy doing and what we believe to be important in life. If I am very interested in sports and you are very interested in, say, looking at paintings, then we may struggle even  to start a conversation that holds our interest. Likewise, if we believe completely different thing about what is important. Of course, our tastes may change over time and after the friendship is formed.

Shared history 

Nothing ties people together like going through some kind of challenging experience, particularly if this is over a long period of time. Of course, we need to find more than that if the friendship itself is to be long-standing.

Mutual support

We need to have some sense that we are supporting each other. We each receive and give benefits to the other. One supports the other through difficult times. But if one is giving all the time and not getting back, then that is not true friendship and eventually most of us feel resentment and give up.  

What seals the friendship?


Putting your interests ahead of their comfort

A real friend tells you the truth when you need to hear it, even when it is an uncomfortable truth. They will tell you when they think you are about to make a fool of yourself or if they think, for example, you are drinking too much. A friend is someone who can tell you are wrong and you still care about them – not immediately necessarily but certainly after you've had time to think.

Reliability

Friends are consistent in their care and their availability. Provided they are fit, not dealing some huge problem or on their honeymoon, you don’t have to stop and think about calling them up to discuss something that is really worrying you.

Respect for your values

A good friend will recognize what is important to you even though they may not agree with you on every point. They won't ask you to go against a deeply held value for the sake of your friendship. And your not going against your values, will not compromise the friendship.


I hope you have good friends in your life. If you do, then value them highly, one day you may come to believe they are more precious than gold.

Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Wednesday, 19 March 2014

You are not alone

You are not alone

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

If life is a like a roulette wheel, you can’t choose what position you are placed in. But you can work yourself into a place. If you want it bad enough, you can do it. That has always been a fact of life. You may not get it perfect first time, although you want to, but you will get to where you want to be. 

Life contains a lot of try and fail experiments, you may fail a million times but it only takes one second to change and a doorway will open in which you can succeed. Never stop chasing that dream, because you never know. And if you don’t try, you’ll never know. So don’t give up at the first hurdle, because it only takes a minute change to change everything. 

Though you may not see it on someone’s face, everyone is dodging bullets and climbing over hurdles. You are not alone, although there are a lot of instances when that may seem the case. Seem is an extravagant word, because when something seems to be the case it’s blurry. It means it’s not for sure, it may well be that way but it’s not definite. I looked it up in the dictionary and it’s definition is:  to give the impression of being; appear, to appear to one's own opinion or, to appear to be true, probable, or evident or to appear to exist. It’s just how something appears to you. And just because you don’t see anyone else hurting, doesn’t mean it’s not happening.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 11 March 2014

Different! We are all idiosyncratic!

Different! We are all idiosyncratic!


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

We are all idiosyncratic, which is just a big word for a bit different. We all have stories to tell and how we choose to portray ourselves says a lot about who we are. We all have different stories. 

If we all had the same struggles and issues how boring would that make life? I know sometimes it’s frustrating that people won’t or can’t understand what you’re going through. But that’s all right. They are living out their story with their own obstacles to overcome.
                                                                                
Life is all about reciprocation. If you go into a situation with a positive mind set and are kind to people, they are likely to give you the same respect that you show them. Not everyone is like this however, so I’d urge you not to open your heart too soon. I have made this mistake and I think it’s taught me to be cautious next time. When dealing with affairs of the heart, DON’T throw caution to the wind. If your heart’s telling you it’s wrong, it probably is.


Everyone deals with situations in different ways.

If you’re facing it and prefer to put a brave face on, I understand. I used to do that. But I’ve found, over time, that wearing a mask all the time, pretending I’m Ok with everything isn’t healthy for me, my body or those around me. I realised that I was shut off from the issues of everyone else. I wasn’t doing it intentionally, but it seemed to others that I was ignoring them. It wasn’t fair on them. So I’m more open now, which is appreciated (I hope) by those people around me. I had to find the strength to believe that everyone is going through something on a daily basis. Everyone is hurting, in their own way, so be kind. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Monday, 10 March 2014

Dealing with Disappointment

Dealing with Disappointment 


Wise words in the video from Elena No Braina
 who discusses how disappointments are a necessary part of life that teach you to keep pushing and follow your ambition. Stay in the game!


Above all, know that you are not alone. Disappointment happens all the time in life and learning to deal with it is a key life skill. But if you find yourself getting in stuck on the downward slope, find someone to talk to – either a trusted friend or a coach like me.

Now onwards and upwards – it is good to keep occupied rather than ruminating on what has happened. The world is still full of possibilities. Don’t miss them by taking yourself out of the game – commit to bouncing right back.

Don’t forget I offer a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype.

Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Friday, 7 March 2014

Beautiful sounds with a video journey through the Heart of the Ocean

Beautiful sounds with a video journey through the Heart of the Ocean

Takes awhile to load but worth it!

Post by Anima.

Thursday, 6 March 2014

Healing the Past

 Healing the Past - Quotes









Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Wednesday, 5 March 2014

Work-Life Balance - Work Is Also Life

Work-Life Balance - Work Is Also Life


Another perspective!

Speaking at the Alumni meet of the INSIGHT 2012 Business Leadership Program, Sadhguru answers a question on work-life balance. Sadhguru reminds us that work and life are not different. Instead of "working" five days a week and "living" two days a week, it is better to live seven days a week he says.





For more information on INSIGHT 2013, visit http://ishainsight.org/

Tuesday, 4 March 2014

Stress - has yours led to anxiety and/or depression?

Stress - has yours led to anxiety and/or depression?


 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home.

Most of us know these days that long term pressure at work, or in other parts of our lives, can lead to stress. And we know that stress in turn is bad for us and can take a toll on both our bodies and our minds leading, among other things, to anxiety and depression. But how do you know when to seek help?

If you answer yes to the questions below, you may need to talk to someone. 


  • Do you feel unfulfilled in your day-to-day life - has life lost it's flavour? 
  • Are you unable to enjoy the things that once gave you pleasure?
  • Do you feel that you are stuck in your life at work or at home and can't see a way out?
  • Do you look for ways to avoid situations that make you anxious? 
  • Do you worry that you are about to have a panic attack, or feel as if you are going crazy? 
  • Do you feel sad, depressed or down frequently? 
  • Do you feel tired and lacking energy for a lot of the time? 
  • Do you have trouble sleeping or find you are sleeping too much? 
  • Do you find it difficult to concentrate?
  • Do you find yourself procrastinating and unable to make decisions? 
  • Have you had a change in appetite or weight?
  • Do you sometimes have feelings of worthlessness or guilt? 
  • Do you sometimes feel frightened or panicky for no obvious reason? 
  • Do you feel restless and unable to relax?
  • Do you feel anxious or worried for a lot of the time? 
  • Do you sometimes feel like just giving up?

If you found yourself checking off more than the odd one of these, then it is time to talk to a therapist or your physician or you could contact a life coach like me.  

If you have had recurring thoughts of death or suicide, contact your doctor regardless of how you have answered these questions.

Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Monday, 3 March 2014

Finding Comfort

Finding Comfort


 is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home.

Do you need comfort? Try some of these!

  • Kiss your husband/wife or partner or give your best friend a hug – tell them you love them.
  • Cuddle a baby – touch base with the young mother in your circle and share some time with her and the little one.
  • Take your dog for a walk or play with the cat. Animals are great non-judgemental company!
  • Call your Mum or a friend you haven’t seen for a long time!
  • Weed your garden. If you don’t have one, find out about local community gardens and join in. Going back to the earth is a great way to touch base with yourself.
  • Go on a walk through the woods and experience the smells and sights around you. Take lots of pictures and share your walk on Facebook
  • Sit in the park and people-watch then find a little cafe and have tea/coffee and cake
  • Watch your favourite movie or read your favourite book.
  • Sing in your choir or just sing in the shower. You can just hum and dance in your own living room.
  • Meditate or go to your place of worship to spend some quiet time and connect with yourself.
  • If someone has hurt you, find someone you trust to talk it through with. Sharing usually helps.

Above all remember this will pass. Just as the spring comes after winter, the sun will come back to your personal sky and shine again.

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Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com 
http://wisewolfcoaching.com