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Thursday, 24 February 2011

Angry, frustrated and stressed - relax and breathe your cares away!

We can’t avoid stress but we can learn to counteract it!

Relaxation can help to relieve the symptoms of stress. It can help you calm down and take a step back from a stressful situation. This is particularly important, if you find yourself frequently in situations that make you feel angry or frustrated.  When you feel like that you certainly don’t perform well or respond to others in a positive way.  Using a simple relaxation technique will not remove the cause of your anxiety.  But it should help you deal with it in a more constructive way, once you have released the tension in your body and cleared your thoughts.

Most relaxation techniques combine breathing more deeply with relaxing your muscles.

Don't worry if you find it difficult to relax at first. It's a skill that needs to be learned and it will come with practice. Practise for three to five minutes, two to three times a day! You can use this technique whenever you feel the need to calm down!

Relaxed breathing

Practise deep breathing at a regular time and in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Loosen or remove any tight clothes and make yourself comfortable! If you can, sit in a comfortable chair which supports your head or lie on the floor or bed. Place your arms on the chair arms, or flat on the floor or bed, a little bit away from the side of your body with the palms up. If you’re lying down, stretch out your legs, keeping them hip-width apart or slightly wider. If you’re sitting in a chair, don’t cross your legs.

Good relaxation always starts with focusing on your breathing. The way to do it is to breathe in and out slowly and in a regular rhythm as this will help you to calm down.

·         Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth slowly.
·         Fill up the whole of your lungs with air, without forcing.
·         Imagine you're filling up a bottle, so that your lungs fill from the bottom.
·         Breathe in slowly and regularly counting from one to five (don’t worry if you can’t reach five at first).
·         Then let the breath escape slowly, counting from one to five.
·         Keep doing this until you feel calm.
·         Breathe without pausing or holding your breath.

While you are doing this concentrate completely on your breathing – let the thought of your breath fill you heart and mind completely!

You will be surprised by the power of this very simple technique which you can use any time and  in more or less any place.  Please try it and let me know what you think!

Working with a coach can help you handle anger and stress.  Email me now to find out how I can help

Wendy Mason is a Life and Career Coach.  She helps people have the confidence they need to handle their lives successfully. Email her at

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