In 1996 Daniel Goleman wrote his groundbreaking book "Emotional Intelligence". His exhaustive research had shown him that success in all parts of our lives is based more on our ability to handle emotions than on our intellectual capability or our physical strength.
People with high Emotional Intelligence can understand emotions – their own and other people’s, They can make their emotions and their understanding help them to empathise with others, to understand them and to handle their emotions. For example, they are much less likely to be overwhelmed by someone bursting into tears,
People with high EQ are generally open and pleasant to be around. They tend to pick up and understand those little non-verbal messages we send with body language, posture and tone of voice.
In his book, Daniel Goleman says, "People who cannot marshal some control over their emotional life fight battles that sabotage their ability for ...clear thought."
Our emotional skills have a direct and important bearing on our relationships with others. If we can understand our feelings, where they come from and how to properly express them we are more likely to maintain healthy family relationships and friendships.
To sustain a relationship with someone else we need to be able to control our emotions, communicate our feelings in a constructive manner and understand their feelings. So how do we develop emotional intelligence?
We need to learn
- To understand our own emotions.
- To develop self-awareness
- To recognize and acknowledge feelings as they happen.
- How to manage our emotions and not be constantly battling feelings of gloom and distress.
- Emotional self-control and the ability to delay gratification.
- To recognize and acknowledge emotions in others
- To develop empathy.
- To be attuned to what others want or need.
We need to develop our emotional intelligence so that we are capable of healthy relationships.
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