Happiness Is What We Make It. The First One...Today we have the first post from one of our new contributors, Stephanie Carfrae. Stephanie is a Creative Writing Graduate and you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk
Happiness is what we make it. A hard concept to grasp, but think about it this way: if you make yourself happy with life as it is right now, things can only get better. You don’t need to feel low about things not going your way; if you are happy those things will somehow transpire into existence. If you keep focusing on the things that are making you unhappy you are but welcoming in those emotions so that more of the same come. So while I may not have the best body, I don’t complain about it; I make the best out of the situation I’ve been given. I’m an active believer in YOLO (You Only Live Once). I know a lot of people say it and don’t know the true meaning of it but it is: taking a chance to change a life (your life/their life/whoever’s life) because you will never get this moment back. Remember, every sixty seconds spent with thoughts of hatred/insecurity or anger is a minute of your life that you will never get back. So be happy. And smile. Because there’s a lot to smile about in this crazy mixed-up world.
There should be nothing to regret for you as long as every choice you’ve made is your own. And even if it isn’t/wasn’t: let them live with a guilty conscience and move on. There’s nothing stronger than that. Facing your own demons and removing them from your shoulders (either physically or mentally). There is no such thing as regret because it was what you wanted at some stage in life. And this is a materialistic world, so if there’s an old toy you regret throwing away or something, I’m sure you will be able to get hold of it again.
We are all contingent beings. We rely on people for things. But as creatures of the Earth we are fragile. We all have back story’s for being the way we are. Tomorrow is never promised. So make sure the ones you love know you love them and try to stop getting so caught up in things that can wait. Once a lightbulb goes out, electricity can’t flow through it anymore and this is true of human beings as well. You are a lightbulb, you can shine so bright, but eventually you will start fading and it’s important to love those who love you so they know. Because you never know what’s going on in someone else’s life, so you don’t have the right to judge others.
Stephanie Carfrae, Creative Writing Graduate www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk