Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube
What’s stopping you from doing what you want to right now?
Well, for a lot of us, fear undermines what we want to do. Money and other things stopping us are not nearly as big as this fear of being wrong that we have developed. We have developed it as a species. Teachers’ mark in red pen with a cross next to everything that we get wrong as a child. So it’s inbred into us. A constant fear of being wrong, in the wrong place at the wrong time or having anything wrong with us. It’s no one’s fault we feel like this. But it’s time to stand up to this!
What are we fearing? As Jack Canfield puts it: everyone has an ‘unfounded fear of rejection.’ And why? Because every failure we experience and have ever experienced is marked by something or other. Bet your victories are not celebrated in the same way. Big successes yes, but to breathe and be alive today are victories in themselves. While they might not be big, you have made it to another day and that is a victory. No matter what you say or think. You need to alter the things you consider successes. It will take a while. But the fact that you made it to this day, where you are with everything that goes on in your life is a huge success.
My perspective on this is if you never ask you don’t get. And you can apply this in most circumstances. I emailed a company about a job I don’t have a chance of getting, but just putting my name out there is worth it and who knows someone might spot it and give me a chance. Or be inspired by my actions. Who knows? I’d rather put an idea into the world than nothing, and who knows if it’ll ever be taken to mean anything? I don’t know if you will have clicked off this post by now but I am still writing it. You can never know what’s going on in someone else’s mind. So stop fearing rejection that isn’t there, and just go for the leap because you never know what could result and even if it fails; it’s better to have tried because you won’t be left with what ifs.
Stephanie Carfrae, Creative Writing Graduate. Find her blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and her video introduction at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSHqG-DOMK0