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Wednesday, 28 August 2013

You don’t need to be perfect!

You don’t need to be perfect!

Here is another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube  

I never want to be perfect. Perfectionism is over-rated. You don’t need to be perfect. You’re a perfect version of you. We are not made to be perfect. We make mistakes and learn different lessons from the same things. That is what being human is all about. Sure, you can think someone looks perfect or has the perfect lifestyle, but there will be an untold story lying in the midst of this so-called ‘perfection’. As Ollin (http://ollinmorales.com/) has pointed out, the perfection game is rigged and will stop us from getting there; he uses the analogy of a casino in Las Vegas to make his point. It’s not your fault that you can’t get there. As I claim, you are perfect at being you, there’s not another you who can deal with the same situations you do better. How we deal with things is how we deal with things and once we make our move it can’t be changed. But we can learn from such decisions. We are always evolving and changing, from our skin cells to our clothes.

Some changes are necessary, as my move home from university was, to move on with my life. It wasn’t easy, but things worth doing are never easy. Changes occur to everyone. While they may feel huge at the time, they are probably only the cornerstones that make you into who you are. Human beings are perfect at being imperfect. Just trying your best in situations of real angst or trying to incorporate everyone is the cornerstone of perfection. While you may never achieve it in its completeness, you can get close. You can try your best to cope in hard situations, and you are the best version of yourself in that moment - I think that is perfection. You have to do no more than what you are doing at this very moment to be perfect.


“There is a perfect ant, a perfect bee, but man is perpetually unfinished…Moreover, the incurable unfinishedness keeps man perpetually immature, perpetually capable of learning and growing." As Eric Hoffer has pointed out perfection is not possible for our species. We are always evolving and developing, our skin cells are always changing; we are always growing and learning new things. Learning doesn’t stop when you leave school/college or university. Perfection is an on-going process because it’s always changing. Perfection might be having a particular style of clothing yet tomorrow it could be a state of mind. 

Perfection is what you define it as. Giving yourself positive affirmations is a really good way to keep your faith. Perfection is everywhere. It’s in what you do. You are someone’s version of perfection. 

Stephanie Carfrae, Creative Writing Graduate. Find her blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and her video introduction at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nSHqG-DOMK0