Your Happiness Factor

Your Happiness Factor:celebrating happiness, prosperity, hearth and home, good health.

Thursday, 16 October 2014

The Keys

The Keys


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Don't worry about what other people think of you. 

They don't know what's going on in your life, just like you don't know what's going on in theirs. People are generally self-indulgent. If they're not buried into something on their phone, don't have headphones on or in, I can almost guarantee that they are worrying about themselves. 

We are selfish creatures. It's in our nature to worry about ourselves, first and foremost. Will I get to work on time? Is this outfit ok? Who knows what they are worried about?
The people you admire on a bus or wherever mess up as much as you do or have, they're just experienced enough and better at hiding the cracks. Who's to say that composed, beautiful girl that you see every day doesn't cry herself to sleep? 

A lot goes on behind closed doors that we cannot bear witness to. We all have issues both ongoing or one-offs. You cannot control how a particular issue will affect someone else. 

Only you have the power to control yourself and how you behave/act. The keys to your life are in your hand.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Thursday, 9 October 2014

Wednesday, 8 October 2014

Your happiness counts.

Your happiness counts

Another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

You don't think it does, or that your happiness makes a difference to everyone around you? 

When you are happy, radiance shines from within you. You are much better company when you are happy. Think about it, if you're down in the dumps about something people are less likely to want to hang out with you. 

So be happy, if not for yourself than others. 

You're never going to get this moment back, so go on crack on a smile. Worrying is not good for you, and I know there are thousands of things to worry about, but if we let it go and relax things just might fall into place and be how they're supposed to be. Worrying will not warrant this nor chase it away.  Worrying won't do anything to change the situation. 

One of my favourite quotes is: "Every sixty seconds you spend angry is a minute of happiness you won't get back."

If you worry about what other people are thinking you're not living. Live for you, take the chances you want to take, because life is too short to be stuck in a rut. Other people are strangers for a reason. You'll more than likely never see that person you passed by on the street again. & even if you do, they're unlikely to remember how you appeared (if you appeared bad or anything) in that instance.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Friday, 3 October 2014

Do you have emotional intelligence - what is your emotional intelligence quotient?

Do you have emotional intelligence - what is your emotional intelligence quotient?

"All learning has an emotional base."
-- Plato


The ability to express and control our own emotions is important to our success in life. But so is our ability to understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others. Imagine a world where you couldn't understand when a friend was feeling sad or when a co-worker was angry. Psychologists refer to this ability as emotional intelligence (EI).

Emotional Intelligence refers to the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions - your own and other peoples'. Some researchers suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others claim it is an inborn characteristic. 

A number of testing instruments have been developed to measure emotional intelligence, although the content and approach of each test varies. The quiz at the link below presents a mix of self-report and situational questions related to various aspects of emotional intelligence. 

Do you have emotional intelligence - what is your emotional intelligence quotient? Take the quiz at the link below from http://psychology.about.com/ to learn more.


Take the test: http://psychology.about.com/library/quiz/bl_eq_quiz.htm

Monday, 29 September 2014

Change is neccessary!

Change is necessary!




Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Sometimes I don’t believe the effect I have on people. How far my words can reach. Whether I get an icy negative reception or a warm positive one. 


Luckily for me, it is usually the latter. And that is because I go into a situation with an open mind, because I am not panicking over what my boss may be thinking and/or feeling. 


This may seem naive or very easy for me to say, but the way I look at it: every day is a new day, and though people can’t change overnight, they can start. Though you mightn’t like it: everything is constantly changing; from our thoughts racing to the plate tectonics that make up the earth. You mightn’t be able to see it with the naked eye but there are changes happening all the time, if not to you than someone else. 


You need change in your life just as the seasons need to change to make up our year. It might not be happening fast, but in my mind’s eye, life is winding up your life in which a lot will change very quickly when released.



Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Wednesday, 24 September 2014

0992990009Do you know a job seeker? Would you like to help them?

This is a request for your help!

First, here is an extract from the introduction to my new job search pocket book. It is more of a work book really!

“So what is it that marks out the successful job seeker?

Successful job hunting today takes commitment, confidence, flexibility, resilience and technique. And you'll find tips on all those things in what follows.

Commitment
You'll need to commit time and energy to your job search. Many successful job seekers spend 36 to 40 hours a week looking for work. Sounds just like work doesn't it? But keeping a regular routine and having structure pays great dividends.

Confidence
If you are not already a very confident person, or the experience that brings you here has knocked your confidence, the work we will do to help you understand and appreciate your past successes can help you to feel confident again.

Flexibility
Being willing to adapt and to accept change opens up all kinds of possibilities. This is certainly easier with more confidence. You'll explore flexibly meeting the needs of a potential employer in the pages that follow.

Resilience
Resilience, like confidence, is something you may have to work hard at. Finding work may take longer than you expect and you will probably have to bounce back from some knocks on the way. You will be in good company, though. Lots of good people have suffered the same kind of knocks only to bounce back and be very successful at their next attempt, or the one after that.

Technique
If you have been out of the job market for a while, there will be new techniques to learn and some you need to refresh. From writing a modern CV to wowing them at the interview, all the tips are here.”

The little book I've produced is based mainly on the experience of my successful coaching clients.

I believe working through it really can make a difference for any job seeker. It is concise, practical and very inexpensive. That means that neither I, nor my publisher, have a huge budget to spend on publicity. So, I'm relying on you, dear readers, to pass the message onto anyone you know who is looking for work and could benefit from some useful tips.

You can find "The WiseWolf Job Search Pocket Book: How to Win Jobs and Influence Recruiters" on my Amazon page at this link; http://ow.ly/BRSAL . You can find out more about it on the publisher’s website http://bluebirdhousebooks.com .
Thank you for your support.

I wish all those starting out on or a continuing a job search this week every success.

If you are thinking about coaching, and we coaches really can add value to your job search, I would love to talk to you.

Warm regards

Wendy
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com
http://wisewolfcoaching.com
UK: +44 (0) 2081239146
US: +1 262 317 9016
Mobile: +44 (0) 7867681439 IM: wendymason14 (Skype)

Thursday, 18 September 2014

Underestimation: we all do it

Underestimation: we all do it

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

"Normal" people underestimate their impact on the world and the people around them. 

Generally "we" think that what we do on a daily/regular basis is boring/nothing new. Please give yourself some credit. 

Congratulate yourself for the fact that you woke up today, the fact that you are carrying on this fight. 

Congratulate yourself because you deserve to, especially if you don't have anyone around who can or will show you how much they appreciate it. Other people do appreciate what you are doing, though they mightn't say it or appear grateful. 

And what you are doing may not change the world tomorrow or the next day, but eventually. It may take the world years/decades/even longer to recognise that what you do is significant, but it will happen. 

There are over 8 billion people on this planet, so it will take some time for everyone to have their moment but there will come a time! And if you only get to change the worlds of a few people, think how much happier their lives are now.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Friday, 12 September 2014

Never Regular, Spectacular

Never Regular, Spectacular!

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

You're not like everyone else. 


This world is full of people saying you have to fit into a category or something but please don't be sucked into being someone you're not to please others. You can't please everyone. You're not meant to. 

Someone in the world will find a fault in your perfection. That's the way it is. Our perfection is so different to other people's. And that's Ok. That's the way it's meant to be. What's special to us is different to others. That's how it's meant to be. Otherwise everyone would be fighting for the same thing. And it's good we're not. You just want to be noticed. You are being seen, by the people that matter. And right now, it's only your family and friends. And you wish it was more. But that's enough. 

Life gives us what we can manage. Just because you're not known all over the world yet doesn't mean you won't be. 

A film I was watching recently has the line 'Never Regular, Spectacular' from the film 'Jack' starring Robin Williams. It really struck a chord. It's true. Something that is part of everyday life for you, is spectacular, inconceivable or unbelievable to someone else. You think everything you do is just normal? Think of everything you've dealt with in your past to get you t now. That's pretty amazing. 

Please take pride in what you do. There is someone who you don't even know who thinks what you do is Spectacular. Someone is always looking up to you, don't let that person down. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Friday, 5 September 2014

Finding your quiet place!

Finding your quiet place!

Lots of us have one already – a quiet place that we like to visit or at the very least remember. It can be a great source of solace when times are hard. Or simply when things are a bit fraught.

But do you know that your quiet place doesn't have to be out there? It can just as easily be inside you if you take the time to find it. And once found, of course, it becomes completely portable. You can take it with as you travel about your busy life.

To find your quiet place you need first to find a somewhere to do the work. Find a room or open space that feels safe for you. Sit comfortably. Now follow these simple steps.

·         Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth slowly.
·         Fill up the whole of your lungs with air, without forcing.
·         Imagine you're filling up a bottle, so that your lungs fill from the bottom.
·         Breathe in slowly and regularly counting from one to five (don’t worry if you can’t reach five at first).
·         Then let the breath escape slowly, counting from one to five.
·         Keep doing this until you feel calm.
·         Breathe without pausing or holding your breath.

While you are doing this concentrate completely on your breathing – let the thought of your breath fill you heart and mind completely!

Once you are relaxed, rest there in the peace and silence for a little while. You have found your quiet place.
The more you practice the easier it will become to go to your quiet place. And, with practice, you will find you can go there easily wherever your body happens to be at the time.


Enjoy, we all need our own, private, quiet place.

If you are thinking about coaching, and we coaches really help you work through life's challenges, I would love to talk to you.
Warm regards
Wendy
wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com
http://wisewolfcoaching.com
UK: +44 (0) 2081239146
US: +1 262 317 9016
Mobile: +44 (0) 7867681439 IM: wendymason14 (Skype)
Pre-order “The WiseWolf Job Search Pocket Book: How to Win Jobs and Influence Recruiters” from my Amazon page at this linkhttp://www.amazon.co.uk/Wendy-Mason/e/B00BEV22L4/ref=ntt_athr_dp_pel_1

Friday, 29 August 2014

You are too hard on yourself!

You are too hard on yourself!

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos
Believe it or not, some days you might sink low and believe everyone else is better than you. And that's okay. 
Everyone has a different story to tell and just because you don't have what you want right now doesn't mean it won't come to the light and/or you can't or won't get it.
It's not too late!
Make the choice today to be what you want to.
Other people might try to put you off doing a particular thing; you've just got to stand up for yourself and be proud. It might not be what they would do in your situation, but everybody is different. People will try to dampen your dreams but don't let them.
Just hold your head up high. You know where you're going. You know what you want and though you may not know how to go about getting it right now - that's Ok. Life is something we learn on the job. 
That is true of our dreams too. Oftentimes people give up on their dreams because they no longer believe themselves capable of it. People will have told them it's unrealistic and lost their belief in it long before life has gotten in the way.
There are fighters though. If you are one, you will have had to grit your teeth sometimes and just be confident enough to listen to your heart instead of your head. It isn't just other people who will try to dampen your hopes and dreams. Everyone has a voice inside their heads but that is an inside critic and one you can answer very firmly.
Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 19 August 2014

Situations arise at any time

Situations can arise at any time. 


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

You can never be sure when something will strike.

You can be dealing with a big problematic event when little ones can occur and you think it’s just to rub it in. I know it can feel burden-heavy. But that’s Ok. Feeling weighed down is not good for you, so try to take everything one step at a time. But I know it’s a real pain when everything comes at the same time. That’s how life seems to work; I see it as a positive thing. 

When you’re in the midst of things; challenges and the like, problems that would have otherwise held you up are accomplished without much thought. You don't even recognise how much you accomplish. The things that would usually swamp you, you just do because there's no way around it. 

So at hard times give yourself some credit. You've probably done something that you thought you weren't capable of years ago. Maybe you're finding things you used to do with ease a bit of a struggle now - that's Ok. Things change. And just because you can't do something as easily as you used to doesn't mean your inferior or not useful anymore - it just means it's time to slow down.

Having an overall plan is a good thing

Having an overall plan is a good thing, like where you want to go and what you want to do in life, but planning everyday in intimate detail is a downfall in my eyes. You can't account for everything that occurs in life. You might have to put plans on hold for a while, because something different has happened now. 

Things arise all the time that you never thought could/would happen. Life is not always under our control. And that is frustrating. And we can't always do much to change that. Accept life as it comes and treat any little bump as you would naturally. Don't let it change who you are.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 


Monday, 28 July 2014

The Women Left



The Women Left

Here is a short poem I wrote a while ago now and it appears on one of my poetry blogs (Dreaming in Purple and Grey). Now it is my way of marking this year's special anniversary. I grew up in the 50s and 60s and I heard many stories of women who lost their men in the first World War and how they suffered.  My aunt lost her "young man".  She never spoke of it and she never married.  There was no one to marry; a generation had been lost. But the women who had it hardest were the widows of "other ranks" who were left with children to care for and little or no support.

This poem is for them.

The Women Left


And we the women left
Make lives for ourselves.
Brave women we,
The women left.
Like flotsam on a stony shore,
We shouldn't be here.
Discarded parts!
Our seasoned wood
Has gone beyond its season.
But still we scrub and clean
And make our knuckles raw
With all your dirty laundry.
If not, who'll feed our kids?
Brave women, we
The women left.

Wendy Mason is a Career Coach and Writer

Thursday, 24 July 2014

Don't let the smallest thing ruin your day

Don't let the smallest thing ruin your day


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos


If one bad happens in a day try not to let it affect the day’s productiveness. 


We've all had days when a bad thing happens first thing and the whole day is ruined because of it. But if you just refocus on the positive after the downfall – whatever it may be – you can turn a downward turn into an upward one. 

Everyone fails at something in their life – a mis-venture or makes a million mistakes – there’s no plain sailing in life, even if it looks to be on the surface. You can never really tell what’s on someone else’s mind unless they tell you. Nor what’s bubbling beneath the surface of a smile. So try to be kind.

One of my core beliefs is there is an opportunity in every situation and due to this, a positive. That’s why I have a single sticky note on my mirror in my bedroom asking ‘What’s the opportunity in this?’ It may be small, but there is an opportunity in every situation. Perhaps it’s only the opportunity to make it easier tomorrow or the opportunity to know what to do when/if it happens next time. There’s also a positive to be found.
 In everything you do. Yes that’s right. I said it. It is true. 

Even if you fail at something, it’ll teach you a lesson for the future, even if it isn’t relevant right now some good will come from it. Whether it’s just a lesson you keep in your memory that makes you stronger – or something that weaves itself into what you do with the rest of your life – like in my lyric writing or my How To Sundays (on my blog) where I have touched on being bullied at a young age and broken hearts. They’ve all helped me become who I am today. And I don’t regret one piece of it. They only made me stronger. And that’s what mistakes do too. 

You are never a failure. Do not ever let yourself feel like one. We are all human – we are all entitle to make mistakes. It’s a part of life. And that will never change  - unless we all become robots and live perfectly and that wouldn’t be fun for anybody!


Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Wednesday, 16 July 2014

Life is unpredictable.

Life is unpredictable.


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Life is unpredictable. Good times won’t last so you need to capture them so you can focus on them at bad times. 

Just as good times don’t last, bad times don’t last either. I know it feels never-ending when you are going through a rough patch but believing that things will get better will push good things and times to the forefront. To do this, you need to become more aware of the negative thoughts you let in and stop letting them in. This may seem odd, but in being positive you need to outweigh the negative thoughts in your mind, so first you must be able to recognise the negative thoughts that trouble you every day. 

In the light of the negativity, you need to find a positive or something that can, or will be helpful if you let it, in the long run to the situation you are in. Just because the positive or helpful thing isn't working out right now, doesn't mean it won't. The more you do this, the more this kind of thinking will become natural. Soon your mind will operate more positively, no matter the situation. 

You're not alone with your insecurities. 

We all have something we don't like about ourselves. And you can fix them with plastic surgery (way too expensive) or you learn to live with your faults and hopefully turn it (or them) into a positive. Because if you don't, they will haunt you your entire life. Someone I know doesn't like the way they appear in photos because of their teeth. They only like their smile if it's with their mouth shut, so they incorporate that into most pictures taken. And it works. Take me - I always wanted brown eyes and brown hair - there's not much I can do about the eyes - granted I could go for contact lenses - but I think it's take me ages to work out and my eyes are better blue. But I did dye my hair which made me feel a lot more like me - I've always likened blonde hair to some form of perfection and I didn't want to be that 'perfect' girl anymore.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Thursday, 10 July 2014

Caring is not needing to please x

Caring is not needing to please x

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

We care too much about what others think of us because we have little confidence in what we do and who we are. 

You might disagree with me, wearing a mask of confidence, often people pretend they are confident in what they do hoping that confidence will transfer to who they are. That's the wrong order. You have to be Ok and confident in who you are before you can be confident in what you do. Otherwise you're faking. People won't like admitting it. But you, you are strong enough to admit that confidence can't grow this way. 

Confidence grows out of you accepting yourself, all your faults and working them to your benefit. So it's good to strip away every lie you tell yourself and start over. 

You might be stressing that it'll take too long - and you're busy - but wait a minute we all are. It's an ongoing endeavour - to be confident. It doesn't come overnight. Hopefully people will encourage and lift you up, but if they don't - if they tear you down - just think and believe that you are someone to proud of (if you need to repeat it every day to yourself to ingrain it into your soul - do - because your heart will thank you for speaking the truth). 

Don't you know that you are spectacular? Don't disagree with me, you know it's true. 

The confidence will grow like a flower - once you believe in who you are.

Like a flower growing - we don't see it growing with the naked eye - and often it blooms before we notice it - and this is like confidence. What you believe is often more powerful than anything - so get to the point of believing in you - it isn't easy and it does take time - but it's so worth it. 

Confidence springs from believing in yourself. You have to be Ok with you - how you are and who you are - first, and build confidence from that. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Tuesday, 1 July 2014

Stop wishing your life away


Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

We are all at different stages of our lives - every minute (second) of every day.

Just because you haven't had what someone else had by this stage in their life doesn't make it wrong and most importantly, it doesn't make you weak. I'm quite relieved that I didn't have to go through everything that Harry Potter did by the time I was eighteen. I know you're saying 'He's a literary character' but you know what I mean.

Wishing your life away until you have what someone else has got is not good for you.


It's not good for your health. We all get handed different opportunities and some we seize and some we don't. This can be for many reasons ie. the timing's not right etc. But there's a reason for it. Heck, no one knows what it is. In later life it may become apparent why in later life and if it does hopefully it will be worth it. So don't you want to wait for those days? Aren't they worth it? To hopefully come to a day when everything makes sense? 

It's YOUR time so do whatever you have to to be happy, don't live in someone's shadow. The  time to stop hiding is NOW!

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos 

Monday, 16 June 2014

There are positive outcomes


There are positive outcomes

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos

Very few people have confidence in happiness. They believe that you have to work for it, that it can't just come out of nowhere. But that's the beautiful thing about life. You just need to be able to let things go and enjoy the little things in life. I think our generation has gotten very reliant on the impression we give others that we fail to notice the beauty around us. Look up from your phone, because you'll never know what chances are passing you by while you're trying to impress your friends. Why do we even need to impress our friends? They're friends of ours for a reason, we don't have to impress them every minute of the day. That's just what I think anyway.

Negativity sticks out. That's why we see it and ignore the positive outcomes which evolve at the same time. As a human race, we've been programmed to see things fit together. So when they don't, when the pieces of negativity stick out we latch ourselves onto those bits for fear of getting left behind in a whirlwind. But it's time like these we just need to loosen the grip a little bit at least, bec ause we miss so much while we're pursuing something else. If we look at every situation negatively why are we surprised that we get negative outcomes? If you look negatively at stuff the outcome will always be negative. So try looking at stuff positively. You can't just change your mind in a night. It takes time. You've actually got to believe that it can have a positive outcome. Sometimes it still will turn out negatively. There's nothing you can do about that. But having a brighter frame of mind, while not always easy, will set you up for a good day and though it may not always work out in a positive way, at least you know that there was nothing you could have done. It's the law of attraction, your thoughts are more powerful than you know. 


Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos