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Sunday, 28 October 2018

Sunday Reflection - Glass Half Full

There are two ways of looking at most things in life. When you face a new challenge, you can think;

"Oh no, I'm not going to be able to this. It is something I've never done before. It means I have to learn new skills. And I'm probably going to fail."

Or you can think;

"Yes, this is a challenge. But I will get the chance to learn more skills. And I'm going to give it my all and do my best to make it a success.

You will find lots of advice around about the power of positive thinking and expecting success. There is a lot of research that shows how having a positive approach to life improves health and happiness. Try looking at the Greater Good Science Centre  website for more information. 

But, with so many people jumping on a positive thinking bandwagon, it easy sometimes to lose sight of what it is really about. At its simplest and most powerful, it is about seeing half a glass of water as half full and not half empty.

How you view the glass varies between people and circumstances. Some people see pessimism as protecting them from disappointment. But it cuts them off from opportunity. Often they have learned pessimism from their parents and they think they can't change. Others may be mildly depressed or lacking in confidence. With help from a coach or counsellor they can change. With support, both groups can learn to challenge their thinking.

It is important though to be realistic about the power of positive thinking. Learning to think positively will help increase your resilience and mental health. But, there are some events in life that are beyond the power of positive thinking to heal. I'm thinking here mainly about bereavement. Trying to persuade someone to think about the glass being half full in those circumstances is usually just crass. Though having the strengthened mindset that comes from positive thinking, does help most of us cope better even with life's nastier moments.

Wendy Smith is a  Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on your life including your career. She helps people lead happier lives and feel more fulfilled. Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book a FREE coaching session with Wendy or find out more at this link

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