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The Dalai Lama Talks About The Need For Compassion And Respect  The Dalai Lama speaks at Stanford about the need for dialogue in resolving conflict, and the need for compassion that extends beyond creeds and beliefs. 'Dalai Lama advocates a secular approach to compassion' http://news.stanford.edu/news/2010/october/dalai-lama-speaks-101410.html Stanford University: http://www.stanford.edu/ Stanford News: http://news.stanford.edu/ Stanford University Channel on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/stanford Category: Related articles The Leader's Way: Business, Buddhism and Happiness in an Interconnected World - Leadership Lessons from the Dalai Lama Are you stressed-out by your poor work-life balance? Having a Bad Day - Tips For Dealing With Days When You Just Feel Down

What to do when guilt is spoiling your life! Recently I wrote about shame and how to deal with it ( Is shame spoiling your life? ). Guilt and shame both come from a sense of having done something considered bad, stupid or wrong. Shame comes from a fear of being disapproved of by others. Guilt comes from disapproving of ourselves – we have broken our own code of values. When we feel guilty, we may try to put things right by confessing and saying sorry. Or we may punish ourselves – for example, in an extreme form, taking an overdose. We may allow others to punish us – putting up with bad treatment, sometimes for years. Or we may anaesthetise ourselves – for example, with drink or or drugs and sometimes over-work. Sometimes guilt is about things we've done and sometimes it is about things we should have done but didn't – for example not making the time to support a friend in trouble. Guilt has a bad reputation in the 21 st Century but it isn

 Tuesday Quotes - Relationships The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships. Anthony Robbins Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings. Miles Franklin Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so. Anon The most effective way to achieve right relations with any living thing is to look for the best in it, and then help that best into the fullest expression. Allen J. Boone We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves. Henri Frederic Amiel Each relationship nurtures a strength or weakness within you. Mike Murdock A person isn't who they are during the last conversation you had with them - they're who they've been throughout your whole relationship. Rainer Maria Rilke However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the "right" person, because he or she is th

Managing emotions - Identifying feelings (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) Time Management - Pinpointing Those Emotional Blocks to Change My last two posts about Time Management ( The Clock Is Ticking! How Good Are You At Time Management) and ( Time Management: Know Where Time Goes - Keep A Log ) said that the first two steps in managing time are to be clear about your purpose and your direction in life and then to know how you spend your time. Knowing those things and completing the first two steps are important. But often time management improvement plans still fail. This is usually because there are underlying emotional issues. Sometimes people feel guilty about spending time on their own interests. For example, what about the rest of the family – shouldn't this time be spent with the children? Or perhaps you might be anxious about saying no to a colleague and refusing to help them at the expense of time to do your own work. This might be because you lack the

  (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) The Mint moth (Pyrausta aurata) on Lemon balm (Melissa officinalis) (Photo credit: Wikipedia )    Lemon Balm – A cup of tea with my lovely Melissa I've started drinking lemon balm tea in afternoons.  Now I've grown lemon balm in my garden for years and always enjoyed the smell. On a summer's day, it is something quite special. But only this year have I taken a couple of fresh sprigs, steeped them in hot water and drunk the results.  Oh, it is lovely. Apparently, the word Balm is an abbreviation of Balsam, the chief of sweet-smelling oils. It is so called from its honeyed sweetness It was highly esteemed by Paracelsus a sixteenth century alchemist of genius. He believed in its ability to revive. Paracelsus, as Manly Hall has said, gained his knowledge "not from long-coated pedagogues but from dervishes in Constantinople, witches, gypsies, and sorcerers, who invoked spirits and captured the rays of the celes