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Saturday, 20 October 2018

Saturday Reflection - Hard Times and Your Gentle Inner Voice

No one lives a life without unhappiness. We all suffer loss and other forms of change we would not have chosen. Often the change leads to better things. And, sometimes, even with the most positive of attitudes, a loss just hurts. We mourn and then get on with life in changed circumstances,as best we can. But, there is a skill you can learn when things are going well that will help when they are going badly. We can learn to listen to the wise and loving inner voice. For some, this is the voice of God. For others it is the higher self - part of you. Somewhere, beneath the chaos of our minds, it speaks.

If we can learn to still the chaos, we can learn to hear the voice. You can learn at any time. But, the easiest time is when things are going well. Your inner friend and counsellor will always be there. 

Time to pause and listen. Sit quietly in a gentle place if you can. Take a few quiet breaths. Feel yourself there in the present, just sitting quiet and still. Oh, there is a joy in stillness. Don't try to resist your thoughts but don't pay much attention to them. If they persist, let them play like an old radio at the back of your mind. And then, in the quiet, gentle and wise thoughts will come -  your inner voice. Let that kind, loving and very wise part of yourself speak to you.


Wendy Smith is a  Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on your life including your career. She helps people lead happier lives and feel more fulfilled. Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book a FREE coaching session with Wendy or find out more at this link

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Saturday, 13 October 2018

Saturday Reflection - Contemplating Not Ruminating

So here I am on Saturday morning, sitting quietly at my desk and contemplating. Contemplating, not ruminating! The difference between those two words, and the process they describe, is huge.

Contemplating means to consider something thoroughly. You take time to think fully or deeply. It helps to do it in your quiet place and to settle your mind before you start.

Ruminating means dwelling on something without reaching any real conclusions. You brood on it, turning it over and over in your mind, You agonize and worry and the thoughts run on and on. You just can't let go. But it doesn't actually get you any nearer to a solution. The thoughts run like a ticker tape through your head.

Ruminating is often a sign of stress.

Stress is a very common experience. Often, I work with clients who feel stressed. Learning how to bring themselves wholly into the present helps them a great deal. In this post I explain what I teach them.

Feeling stressed? Learn to be present!


Coaching can help when you feel stressed. If you are thinking about coaching, I would love to talk to you. You can book a free discussion using the app in the side column

In the meantime I wish you a very happy weekend

Wendy Smith is a  Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on your life including your career. She helps people lead happier lives and feel more fulfilled. Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book a FREE coaching session with Wendy or find out more at this link

You can find Wendy's books on Amazon at this link

Thursday, 11 October 2018

Advice for new leaders

There's a new post on my Career and Life Coaching Blog with advice for new leaders.

new leadersNew leaders - leadership is about creating positive change in a group or organization to achieve some long-term objective. It involves having a vision, setting goals and knowing how to move  the organization and its people towards them. The key skill for new leaders is learn how to best use your resources. And that includes  your people and using their talents to get you to where you need to be.

You can find the rest of the post at this link

Wendy Smith is a  Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on your life including your career. She helps people lead happier lives and feel more fulfilled. Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book a FREE coaching session with Wendy or find out more at this link

You can find Wendy's books on Amazon at this link

Monday, 5 March 2018

Happy Music

Here is some happy music just to brighten your day


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Sunday, 4 March 2018

A quiet walk

A quiet walk through the Quinalt Rainforest in Olympic National Park on the Washington coast. This is filmed just before the heavy foliage blossoms in March. The rainforest is one of the most meditative places I visit. The green moss is heavy with moisture from the winter.






From CreationScapes https://esfilms.net/ch-UCrXxrLl2seADVnu_peGZtjg

Posted by Wendy Smith. Wendy is a Career and Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on life and your career.  You can book a FREE coaching session or find out more at this link


Friday, 26 January 2018

Finding tranquillity


Finding tranquillity 


To be tranquil is to be, calm, serene, and, in the moment, worry-free. The word tranquillity appears in lots of religious texts and particularly in Buddhism. In Buddhism the term passaddhi means the tranquillity of the body, thoughts and consciousness that is found on the path to enlightenment. Being tranquil allows you to a take rest from the periods of hard focused attention’so often required in modern life.

Research has shown that one of the best ways to find tranquility is to spend time in a natural environment. There you can allow your imagination to wander and just soak up your surroundings and a different way of being. For me, spending a little time among trees or by the sea helps me realise that life can be lived with a much longer perspective - the troubles of one day mean very little.

The first maps of tranquility were developed by Simon Rendel of ASH Consulting for a Department of Transport study in 1991. In these maps tranquil areas were defined as places sufficiently far from the visual or noise intrusion of development or traffic to be considered unspoilt by urban influences. More sophisticated mapping techniques are now available following work by researchers at Northumbria University, Newcastle University, and CPRE.

The research has shown the following factors are likely to make an area feel tranquil.

  • A natural landscape, including woodland 
  • The presence of rivers, streams, lakes or the sea 
  • Birds and other wildlife 
  • Wide open spaces 
  • The clear open night sky with or without the moon 
  • A beach in a unique location
  • Open fields, flowers etc. speically when accompanied by a gentle breeze. 
So now you know and it is time go out and find your own tranquil place.

I have a Facebook Page dedicated to finding tranquility and the quality of serenity - you will find it at this link - Unofficial Serenity

Wendy Smith is a Life Coach with Career and Business Coaching skills. She helps people have the confidence they need to be successful at work while maintaining a good work/life balance. You can email her at wendy@wisewolfcoaching.com

Tuesday, 23 January 2018

Feeling stressed? Learn to be present!


Smith is a Career Coach and Life Coach  helping you to solve difficult problems at work

Many of the great religions talk about the value of being able to sit quietly in the present. Sometimes this is a prelude to prayer – sometimes sitting in the present is the prayer or at perhaps a step on the way to enlightenment.  But only recently have we understood the psychological value of being wholly in the present, with or without the religion.

I work with clients who feel stressed. And being able to bring themselves wholly into the present can be a great help to them. Here is what I teach them to do.

My practice of presence!


Find yourself a quiet spot.  This can be a pleasant spot within your home, or somewhere quiet at work.  It is great if you can do the exercise out of doors in your garden or even on a park bench.  But you need somewhere where you can sit for a few minutes and not be disturbed.

 First, focus on your breathing. The way to do it is to breathe in and out slowly and in a regular rhythm.
  • ·         Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth slowly.
  • ·         Fill up the whole of your lungs with air, without forcing.
  • ·         Imagine you're filling up a bottle, so that your lungs fill from the bottom.
  • ·         Breathe in slowly and regularly counting from one to five (don’t worry if you can’t reach five at first).
  • ·         Then let the breath escape slowly, counting from one to five.
  • ·         Keep doing this until you feel calm.
  • ·         Breathe without pausing or holding your breath.

While you are doing this concentrate completely on your breathing – let the thought of your breath fill you heart and mind completely!

Then while breathing gently bring your focus out to the world about you concentrating fully on one sense at a time
  • ·         What can you hear? Really concentrate on those sounds.
  • ·         What can you feel? Feel the air as it touches your skin.
  • ·         What can you smell? If you fully concentrate you may be surprised.
  • ·         What can you taste? Has that smell brought a taste to your mouth perhaps.
  • ·         Now, what can you see? Concentrate fully on just one item in your surroundings. Really see it.

Next take your mind to your feet and feel them fully rooted to the  floor or ground beneath. Then, sense the earth itself beneath you. Sense yourself rooted and part of that earth!  If you wish you can rest there for a while, sensing the earth that supports you.

When you are ready, go back to your everyday day life, taking that sense of presence and support with you. 

With practice you will feel so full of the real presence around, you can be totally and completely yourself.
If you are thinking about coaching, and we coaches really help you work through life's challenges, I would love to talk to you.
Warm regards


Wendy

Wendy Smith is a  Life Coach helping you find fresh perspectives on your life including your career. She helps people lead happier lives and feel more fulfilled. Need help finding work, with problems at work, at home or with relationships? Book a FREE coaching session with Wendy or find out more at this link

You can find Wendy's books on Amazon at this link