Your Happiness Factor

When friendships end! If we are lucky in life we get to meet many people and make some good friends. We can make friends throughout life. And some we carry with us through our life.  Lots of people are still friends with people they met as children. But sometimes friendships come to an end.  This may happen quite naturally and by some kind of unspoken agreement. You just seem to realise you have nothing in common any more – life has moved on and what was a friendship becomes an acquaintanceship with some happy memories and the annual Christmas card. At other times the break up is rather more traumatic with angry words, accusations and on-going bad feelings. It has some elements in common with a broken love affair but it can be lot more messy. With a broken love affair someone usually makes it quite clear that this is the end. That may be painful but at least you can mourn the loss and then get on with the rest of your life.  It is not wise to end a friendship in anger. Mu

If you try to get somewhere! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos If you try to get somewhere, I can’t promise you’ll get anywhere fast, but if you’re trying you will eventually get there. It might not be where you set off to get to, but that’s ok because plans change their course throughout our lives so we never really know where we’re headed anyway.  Your journey may take many unprecedented twists and turns, but will always lead you to the right circumstance. You may fall many times, but the true power lies in the strength that you can maintain to get back up and keep going. I could go down the negative perspective to try to get you to see that negativity is not the way to go, but why would I do that w

You Gain Strength Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos There will be times when situations look and feel negative. We can’t help it. It’s human nature.  For a moment, just pull yourself out of the situation and think about it. Try to steer your thoughts in a positive direction. It isn’t easy to stop doubting yourself for any reason, but it is so worth it when you do. It’s a hard habit to break. But once you start thinking positively more positive things will happen in your life. It isn’t an immediate response though. You just have to believe that the more positive you think, the more positive the outcomes of your endeavours will be. It’s not going to be an overnight phenomenon. Sadly it takes time. But

Finding and Keeping Good Friends Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home. Finding and keeping good friends has two parts to it What draws us to people What seals the friendship What draws us to someone? We meet lots of people in life but for most us very few become frends. These seem to be the things that draw into becoming friend with people. Shared interests and values We usually need to find we have something in common with people in order to become friend. This is usually in terms of the kinds of things we enjoy doing and what we believe to be important in life. If I am very interested in sports and you are very interested in, say, looking at paintings, then we may struggle even  to start a conversation that holds our interest. Likewise, if we believe completely different thing about what is important. Of course, our tastes may change over time and after the friendship is formed. S

You are not alone Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos If life is a like a roulette wheel, you can’t choose what position you are placed in. But you can work yourself into a place. If you want it bad enough, you can do it. That has always been a fact of life. You may not get it perfect first time, although you want to, but you will get to where you want to be.  Life contains a lot of try and fail experiments, you may fail a million times but it only takes one second to change and a doorway will open in which you can succeed. Never stop chasing that dream, because you never know. And if you don’t try, you’ll never know. So don’t give up at the first hurdle, because it only takes a minute change to change ev

Different! We are all idiosyncratic! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos  We are all idiosyncratic, which is just a big word for a bit different. We all have stories to tell and how we choose to portray ourselves says a lot about who we are. We all have different stories.  If we all had the same struggles and issues how boring would that make life? I know sometimes it’s frustrating that people won’t or can’t understand what you’re going through. But that’s all right. They are living out their story with their own obstacles to overcome.                                                                                  Life is all about reciprocation. If you go into a situation with a positive mind set

Dealing with Disappointment  Wise words in the video from  Elena No Braina  who discusses how disappointments are a necessary part of life that teach you to keep pushing and follow your ambition. Stay in the game! Above all, know that you are not alone. Disappointment happens all the time in life and learning to deal with it is a key life skill. But if you find yourself getting in stuck on the downward slope, find someone to talk to – either a trusted friend or a coach like me. Now onwards and upwards – it is good to keep occupied rather than ruminating on what has happened. The world is still full of possibilities. Don’t miss them by taking yourself out of the game – commit to bouncing right back. Don’t forget I offer a free half hour coaching session by phone or Skype. Wendy Mason    is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  http://wisewolfcoaching.com

 Healing the Past - Quotes Wendy Mason    is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  http://wisewolfcoaching.com

Work-Life Balance - Work Is Also Life Another perspective! Speaking at the Alumni meet of the INSIGHT 2012 Business Leadership Program, Sadhguru answers a question on work-life balance. Sadhguru reminds us that work and life are not different. Instead of "working" five days a week and "living" two days a week, it is better to live seven days a week he says. For more information on INSIGHT 2013, visit  http://ishainsight.org/

Stress - has yours led to anxiety and/or depression? Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home. Most of us know these days that long term pressure at work, or in other parts of our lives, can lead to stress. And we know that stress in turn is bad for us and can take a toll on both our bodies and our minds leading, among other things, to anxiety and depression. But how do you know when to seek help? If you answer yes to the questions below, you may need to talk to someone.  Do you feel unfulfilled in your day-to-day life - has life lost it's flavour?  Are you unable to enjoy the things that once gave you pleasure? Do you feel that you are stuck in your life at work or at home and can't see a way out? Do you look for ways to avoid situations that make you anxious?  Do you worry that you are about to have a panic attack, or feel as if you are going crazy?  Do you feel sad, depressed or down frequen

Finding Comfort Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work and at home. Do you need comfort? Try some of these! Kiss your husband/wife or partner or give your best friend a hug – tell them you love them. Cuddle a baby – touch base with the young mother in your circle and share some time with her and the little one. Take your dog for a walk or play with the cat. Animals are great non-judgemental company! Call your Mum or a friend you haven’t seen for a long time! Weed your garden. If you don’t have one, find out about local community gardens and join in. Going back to the earth is a great way to touch base with yourself. Go on a walk through the woods and experience the smells and sights around you. Take lots of pictures and share your walk on Facebook Sit in the park and people-watch then find a little cafe and have tea/coffee and cake Watch your

Staying Positive When Things Hurt! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos  You don’t have to feel A-OK to be positive or feel happy. It’s Ok to get down sometimes. Makes you appreciate the highs when they come! I was in hospital having just had an operation and I was out four days later! I’m not super-woman; it did hurt for a little while but as soon as I put the pain to the back of my mind and focused on being happy the hurt subsided. I know this can’t work every time. As I’m due to have an operation later this month, I was just lucky it did work for me.  Just keep reminding yourself that people go through tougher things every day. Helped me anyway. People go through pain every day, and this may not help ever

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Feeling Down? Five Quick Ways to Raise Your Mood Wendy Mason  is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at home and at work We all have grey days when we feel down. I’m not talking here about on-going low moods when we may need the support of a coach, counsellor or clinician. No, these are the days when you just wake up feeling low for no very good reason at all. Try these tips to give you a boost and get you feeling positive again. ·          Start moving. 10 minutes dancing to a lively tune can do wonders. But if dancing in front of your bedroom mirror doesn’t appeal, how about going for a brisk walk in your local park or simply doing some stretching exercises? ·         Do something for someone else. You would be surprised how good doing a good turn makes us feel. So, how about doing some shopping for an elderly neighbour? Even just smiling at people can make you feel better. You’ll be surprised how many people smile back. ·       

Stress Management and Relaxation No matter what life path you have chosen, knowing the importance of stress management and relaxation is key. Being able to manage your stress level will improve the quality of your life and also the quality of your work. Stress Management Techniques Learning stress management and relaxation techniques is important for anyone. Know Your Triggers:  Be aware of what situations make you the most stressed, and try to avoid them if you can. When stressful situations occur, try to put them into perspective. Acknowledging that a certain situation is a trigger for you, is the first step in learning how to manage your stress. Exercise, Eat Well And Get Enough Sleep Find time in your schedule for 15 to 30 minutes of exercise each day. Exercising will help you focus your energy and work out your frustration. Eat a good mixed diet with lots of fresh fruit, natural cereals and fresh vegetables. Sleep in a quiet, comfortable room without the di

 An all age low impact exercise workout One we can all do at home! Wendy Mason    is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  http://wisewolfcoaching.com

  What is Empathy? Learn Something from Sesame Street A lesson for us all perhaps.  Mark Ruffalo and Murray talk about the word "Empathy." Wendy Mason    is a Career Coach and Life Coach helping you to solve difficult problems at work wendymason@wisewolfcoaching.com  http://wisewolfcoaching.com

  Everybody has hard times! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos  You can only change the world little by little. You can’t change it instantly and make an overnight success of yourself. Of course, nowadays these limits are changing.  But please know if it is taking time to come around that is the way of the world. Most of the overnight successes of the past have been forgotten because if it’s a video on youtube, someone’s watched it once or a few times but after they’ve done it they’ve done it. You may feel you want that kind of success but it’s much better to work towards something, than just to have it whether you’re appreciative or not. Then at least if you get it you will be more thankful because yo