Your Happiness Factor

We can’t avoid stress but we can learn to counteract it! Relaxation can help to relieve the symptoms of  stress. It can help you calm down and take a step back from a stressful situation . This is particularly important, if you find yourself frequently in situations that make you feel angry or frustrated.  When you feel like that you certainly don’t perform well. Nor can you respond to others in a positive way.  Using a simple relaxation technique will not remove the cause of your anxiety.  But it should help you deal with it in a more constructive way. You can act once you have released the tension in your body and cleared your thoughts. Most relaxation techniques combine breathing more deeply with relaxing your muscles. Don't worry if you find it difficult to relax at first. It's a skill that needs to be learned. It will come with practice. Practise for three to five minutes, two to three times a day! You can use this technique whenever you feel the need to c

Feeling anger or having some become angry with us makes us feel unhappy! Anger usually arises because you believe someone has acted against you!   It needn’t be real – you just need to believe it happened! It comes about in three main ways; Some one or some thing gets in the way and stops you achieving a goal Someone or some organisation breaks your personal rules.  For example, ‘I’ve worked for them for years and now they want to get rid of me!’ Your self esteemed feels threatened You feel angry and you may lash out verbally or physically.   Or you may displace your aggression and take it out on someone else.  Instead of attacking you may withdraw – you storm out of the room! Or you may attack indirectly – for example, subverting or spreading rumours – a passive aggressive response. But prolonged anger damages you mentally and physically! You may believe that letting it out is the best way to deal with it.  But these outbursts -  ‘cathartic’ expressions of anger - reinforce your a