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How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship Distance can be very tough on a relationship but it will also help clarify how you really feel. If two people remain interested in each other and commit to doing what it takes to make the relationship work, despite the distance, then it can you make you a stronger and more solid couple.  If both people aren't ready for the pressure that distance puts on a relationship or are not fully committed then it can mean the end of that relationship.  And may be that is for the best! But don't let the distance make you feel depressed or guilty. Go forward remembering how much you have much to offer and all that time ahead.  Remember if you are in a long time relationship, communication is precious.  Don't waste it on being petty - even if you are not meant to be together you can both still be kind to each other Here are some tips to help you on your way

Be a Self-Starter – Confidence and the Personal Development Mindset

This post appeared first in the blog at my  Wisewolf Personal Development Coaching  Website The third characteristic of a  Personal Development Mindset    is to be a self-starter! WHAT IS BEING A SELF-STARTER Personal development means taking personal responsibility for your own learning and development and taking the first steps yourself. Usually this is through a process of review/stock-take, exploration/research, and taking action. BUT HOW DO YOU TAKE THAT FIRST STEP? One of the best ways to start your self-development is to prioritize your professional and personal goals.  It is impossible to do everything so it is important to make a list and make choices. What for you are the most important things to do, in terms of your career and your personal life? Think about; Your private interests and needs in your life outside work; for example spiritual development, parenting skills or relationship building. Your career interests, for example, responding to devel

New relationship? 10 tips to help it last!

Be honest, be yourself.  Nothing erodes confidence more than trying to maintain a  facade! It is exhausting and might cost you the relationship when ( not if ) you get caught out! Play it straight.   Talk to each other and don't play games.  Speak up if something is bothering one of you - be kind and listen to each other.  Have confidence.  If you can believe in yourself you have much more chance of having a strong and confident relationship. If you are not confident then seek help - Confidence Coach at this link can help you . Together, layout the ground rules at the start. It is good to agree at the beginning how much time you plan to spend together and how you will make time to be with other friends and family.  Then stick to the agreement - no one should come back with recriminations.    Be gentle and affectionate. This is about being physically at ease with each other - no, I'm not talking about sex.  You should be able to touch each other easily and without f

The ability to bounce – coping with life’s problems

Image via Wikipedia Coping with life’s problems successfully needs you to have realistic expectations. Psychologists call these expectations, and the judgements you make based on them, ‘appraisals’.  Things that happen to us aren’t a problem unless we judge them to be. Life is never perfect and problems, are a part of normal, everyday life. If our judgements (appraisals) are realistic, we’re much better able to deal with them and not let them throw us off-balance. The appraisals we make come from our belief system. If we hold unrealistic beliefs, then our judgements may not be the best for the situation. Sometimes we have unrealistic beliefs about what we must or should do.  We want to be “perfect”.  “Everyone must like me “or “I’ve got to be good at everything” for example. If you think about these for a minute, they are irrational beliefs. Who do you know who could really achieve them? Another approach! When you are

What is Personal Development?

  What is personal development? Personal development is a way that you can develop yourself; sometimes alone, sometimes with support from others. Personal development can help you identity and develop your talents and potential. You can improve your career opportunities, enhance the quality of your life and contribute to the realization of your dreams and aspirations. What is  Personal Development ?  Personal development includes; understanding yourself as an individual building your self-image and  self-esteem developing strengths or talents improving your opportunities in the job market – your career identifying or improving your potential enhancing your  quality of life  and relationships improving health and social abilities fulfilling  aspirations  and dreams developing and carrying out personal development plans What is Personal Development?  Personal development enables you to; expect to succee

Anxiety - What is it?

   The next few posts here are going to deal with anxiety and stress - f irst - anxiety!  Anxiety is the feeling of fear we all experience when faced with a threatening or difficult situation. It helps us to avoid dangerous situations, makes us alert and motivates us to deal with problems.   It can save our lives by making us run away from danger. We all feel anxious sometimes.  It is normal.  But for some of us – about one in ten – anxiety becomes a problem.  It gets in the way of living the life we would choose.   It can turn into panic attacks and phobias. Some of us just seem to be born more anxious than others. Research suggests these problems can be inherited through our genes. But even someone who doesn't naturally worry can, under enough pressure, become uncomfortably  anxious. This video introduces us to the five  anxiety disorders and why they develop. If you have any thoughts on this they will be very welcome. Related articles Why I am