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Is anger making you unhappy? What can you do about it?

Feeling anger or having some become angry with us makes us feel unhappy! Anger usually arises because you believe someone has acted against you!   It needn’t be real – you just need to believe it happened! It comes about in three main ways; Some one or some thing gets in the way and stops you achieving a goal Someone or some organisation breaks your personal rules.  For example, ‘I’ve worked for them for years and now they want to get rid of me!’ Your self esteemed feels threatened You feel angry and you may lash out verbally or physically.   Or you may displace your aggression and take it out on someone else.  Instead of attacking you may withdraw – you storm out of the room! Or you may attack indirectly – for example, subverting or spreading rumours – a passive aggressive response. But prolonged anger damages you mentally and physically! You may believe that letting it out is the best way to deal with it.  But these outbursts -  ‘cathartic’ expressions of anger - reinforce your a