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Are You a Nervous Networker? Tips to Help.

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Are You a Nervous Net-worker? Tips to Help. Are you one of those rare (and very lucky ) people who enjoys networking?   Or d o you arrive at a networking event, look around at the sea of faces, then find yourself overwhelmed by a stream of doubts and uncertainties? Here are some tips to help Negative self talk can tell you that you’re a fraud and everyone else in the room is just great.  There they are, experienced business professionals, at home in this environment.  While you feel like you are just pretending and you don’t really know what you are doing! On top of that you think you are going to forget what to say. You won’t remember anyone else’s name and there is a very good chance you will forget your own! The “sensible” part of you tells you not to be so silly.  But there you are with all these negative thoughts and anxieties in your head.  Well it doesn't have to be like that. These tips will help!  Relax and take a deep breath, then tell your

The Resilient Mindset – don’t let a fixed mindset defeat you

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The Resilient Mindset – don’t let a fixed mindset defeat you How to thrive in times of change This is a challenging time for all of us. For many times are hard and the world has become a frightening place. So can you survive mentally intact and thrive? How do you develop a resilient mindset? Well accepting that we all have core values that we want to carry through life, most other parts of our thinking can changed. And a mind that is prepared to change and take on the requirements of new circumstances has most chance of staying intact. It is time to learn to challenge your own thinking. A fixed mindset will chatter away in your head, if you let it.  It will tell you all the reasons why you shouldn't change. It is also likely to fill your head with negativity. It will tell you why you are not up tot he task of change. An, slowly it will erode your confidence. The nasty fixed mindset will tell you that even if you wanted to change, you couldn’t do it! It might whispe

The Keys

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The Keys Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos Don't worry about what other people think of you.  They don't know what's going on in your life, just like you don't know what's going on in theirs. People are generally self-indulgent. If they're not buried into something on their phone, don't have headphones on or in, I can almost guarantee that they are worrying about themselves.  We are selfish creatures. It's in our nature to worry about ourselves, first and foremost. Will I get to work on time? Is this outfit ok? Who knows what they are worried about? The people you admire on a bus or wherever mess up as much as you do or have, they're just experienced enoug

Your happiness counts.

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Your happiness counts Another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos You don't think it does, or that your happiness makes a difference to everyone around you?  When you are happy, radiance shines from within you. You are much better company when you are happy. Think about it, if you're down in the dumps about something people are less likely to want to hang out with you.  So be happy, if not for yourself than others.  You're never going to get this moment back, so go on crack on a smile. Worrying is not good for you, and I know there are thousands of things to worry about, but if we let it go and relax things just might fall into place and be how they're supposed to be. Worrying will not warrant thi

Change is neccessary!

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Change is  necessary! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos Sometimes I don’t believe the effect I have on people. How far my words can reach. Whether I get an icy negative reception or a warm positive one.  Luckily for me, it is usually the latter. And that is because I go into a situation with an open mind, because I am not panicking over what my boss may be thinking and/or feeling.  This may seem naive or very easy for me to say, but the way I look at it: every day is a new day, and though people can’t change overnight, they can start. Though you mightn’t like it: everything is constantly changing; from our thoughts racing to the plate tectonics that make up the earth. You mightn’t be able to see it w

Underestimation: we all do it

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Underestimation: we all do it Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos "Normal" people underestimate their impact on the world and the people around them.  Generally "we" think that what we do on a daily/regular basis is boring/nothing new. Please give yourself some credit.  Congratulate yourself for the fact that you woke up today, the fact that you are carrying on this fight.  Congratulate yourself because you deserve to, especially if you don't have anyone around who can or will show you how much they appreciate it. Other people do appreciate what you are doing, though they mightn't say it or appear grateful.  And what you are doing may not change the world tomorrow or the next

Never Regular, Spectacular

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Never Regular, Spectacular! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos You're not like everyone else.  This world is full of people saying you have to fit into a category or something but please don't be sucked into being someone you're not to please others. You can't please everyone. You're not meant to.  Someone in the world will find a fault in your perfection. That's the way it is. Our perfection is so different to other people's. And that's Ok. That's the way it's meant to be. What's special to us is different to others. That's how it's meant to be. Otherwise everyone would be fighting for the same thing. And it's good we're not. You just want to be

You are too hard on yourself!

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You are too hard on yourself! Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos Believe it or not, some days you might sink low and believe everyone else is better than you. And that's okay.  Everyone has a different story to tell and just because you don't have what you want right now doesn't mean it won't come to the light and/or you can't or won't get it. It's not too late! Make the choice today to be what you want to. Other people might try to put you off doing a particular thing; you've just got to stand up for yourself and be proud. It might not be what they would do in your situation, but everybody is different. People will try to dampen your dreams but don't let them. Jus

Situations arise at any time

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Situations can arise at any time.  Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos You can never be sure when something will strike. You can be dealing with a big problematic event when little ones can occur and you think it’s just to rub it in. I know it can feel burden-heavy. But that’s Ok. Feeling weighed down is not good for you, so try to take everything one step at a time. But I know it’s a real pain when everything comes at the same time. That’s how life seems to work; I see it as a positive thing.  When you’re in the midst of things; challenges and the like, problems that would have otherwise held you up are accomplished without much thought. You don't even recognise how much you accomplish. The things t

Don't let the smallest thing ruin your day

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Don't let the smallest thing ruin your day Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos If one bad happens in a day try not to let it affect the day’s productiveness.  We've all had days when a bad thing happens first thing and the whole day is ruined because of it. But if you just refocus on the positive after the downfall – whatever it may be – you can turn a downward turn into an upward one.  Everyone fails at something in their life – a mis-venture or makes a million mistakes – there’s no plain sailing in life, even if it looks to be on the surface. You can never really tell what’s on someone else’s mind unless they tell you. Nor what’s bubbling beneath the surface of a smile. So try to be kind. One

Life is unpredictable.

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Life is unpredictable. Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos Life is unpredictable.  Good times won’t last so you need to capture them so you can focus on them at bad times.  Just as good times don’t last, bad times don’t last either. I know it feels never-ending when you are going through a rough patch but believing that things will get better will push good things and times to the forefront. To do this, you need to become more aware of the negative thoughts you let in and stop letting them in. This may seem odd, but in being positive you need to outweigh the negative thoughts in your mind, so first you must be able to recognise the negative thoughts that trouble you every day.  In the light of the ne

Caring is not needing to please x

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Caring is not needing to please x Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos We care too much about what others think of us because we have little confidence in what we do and who we are.  You might disagree with me, wearing a mask of confidence, often people pretend they are confident in what they do hoping that confidence will transfer to who they are. That's the wrong order. You have to be Ok and confident in who you are before you can be confident in what you do. Otherwise you're faking. People won't like admitting it. But you, you are strong enough to admit that confidence can't grow this way.  Confidence grows out of you accepting yourself, all your faults and working them to your benefit. So

Stop wishing your life away

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Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos We are all at different stages of our lives - every minute (second) of every day. Just because you haven't had what someone else had by this stage in their life doesn't make it wrong and most importantly, it doesn't make you weak. I'm quite relieved that I didn't have to go through everything that Harry Potter did by the time I was eighteen. I know you're saying ' He's a literary character ' but you know what I mean. Wishing your life away until you have what someone else has got is not good for you. It's not good for your health. We all get handed different opportunities and some we seize and some we don't. This can be for many

There are positive outcomes

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There are positive outcomes Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos Very few people have confidence in happiness. They believe that you have to work for it, that it can't just come out of nowhere. But that's the beautiful thing about life. You just need to be able to let things go and enjoy the little things in life. I think our generation has gotten very reliant on the impression we give others that we fail to notice the beauty around us. Look up from your phone, because you'll never know what chances are passing you by while you're trying to impress your friends. Why do we even need to impress our friends? They're friends of ours for a reason, we don't have to impress them every minute of

Stop Worrying

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Stop Worrying As Bob Marley said Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog  at   www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk   and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at  http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos Someone close to me just got the all clear from hospital. While I should have been elated and join her in the living room, I didn’t. Not because I’m not overjoyed, but just because I’d only just come to my laptop to write. There are other things going on in other people’s lives that will make them inattentive to your every move. As I’m sure you understand by now, not everyone can be at your beck and call when you need them. And that’s not because they don’t like you; it’s merely because they have their own lives too that they’re busy with.  People are so preoccupied with themselves that they will hardly notice that thing that you're