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How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship

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How To Survive A Long Distance Relationship Distance can be very tough on a relationship but it will also help clarify how you really feel. If two people remain interested in each other and commit to doing what it takes to make the relationship work, despite the distance, then it can you make you a stronger and more solid couple.  If both people aren't ready for the pressure that distance puts on a relationship or are not fully committed then it can mean the end of that relationship.  And may be that is for the best! But don't let the distance make you feel depressed or guilty. Go forward remembering how much you have much to offer and all that time ahead.  Remember if you are in a long time relationship, communication is precious.  Don't waste it on being petty - even if you are not meant to be together you can both still be kind to each other Here are some tips to help you on your way

Relationship Counselling - Can It Help You?

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“My clients are genuinely surprised when we start working together – they think that I am going to tell them what to do, but it’s not like that. They also come in feeling nervous and apprehensive but once we have met a few times, they even start to enjoy it. At the end of the day, it’s a brave move to come to Relate, but for almost everyone, it’s one of the best moves they have made.” This video explains how relationship counselling works If you are facing divorce or separation, dealing with an affair or a major conflict in a relationship, then relationship counselling really can help. Relationship counselling helps you to make the most of your relationships, past, present or future. Working with relationship counsellor can help you, even if you are not currently in a relationship and worried about it.  Many people believe that relationship counselling is only there to help with the major crises in people’s relationships.  But they are also there for th

New relationship? 10 tips to help it last!

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Be honest, be yourself.  Nothing erodes confidence more than trying to maintain a  facade! It is exhausting and might cost you the relationship when ( not if ) you get caught out! Play it straight.   Talk to each other and don't play games.  Speak up if something is bothering one of you - be kind and listen to each other.  Have confidence.  If you can believe in yourself you have much more chance of having a strong and confident relationship. If you are not confident then seek help - Confidence Coach at this link can help you . Together, layout the ground rules at the start. It is good to agree at the beginning how much time you plan to spend together and how you will make time to be with other friends and family.  Then stick to the agreement - no one should come back with recriminations.    Be gentle and affectionate. This is about being physically at ease with each other - no, I'm not talking about sex.  You should be able to touch each other easily and without f

You've lost your job - what happens next? Starting project you!

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Most of us loose confidence when we lose a job.   It’s not just about losing the income but it affects your image of yourself!   Many of us value ourselves based on our work.   For many of us work is the place where we spend the most of our waking life.   It’s often where we find our friends and make our major achievements.   So when we lose a job we feel we lose part of ourselves and we grieve for it. But you can get over it – just like any grief.   You are much more than your job and your real friends and family value you for much more than your salary even when they are dependent upon it. Now is the time to go to work on anew project and that new is very special because it is you! Here are some points for you to consider! Understand this happened If you have been made redundant then remember it’s not personal – you were just unlucky! Plus it makes you part of a very large and growing club.   If you lost your job for other reasons then make sure you understand why and learn fro

Feeling Stressed at Work - Four Steps to Better Work Boundaries

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Setting boundaries at work can help to prevent you feeling stressed and exhausted.  It allows you to do better work instead of spreading yourself too thin.  Heather's article below advises you on how to go about saying no to the extra pressure! Four Steps to Better Work Boundaries by Heather Boerner, for Yahoo! HotJobs Want to advance your career? Saying “no” may be the key. “It’s wonderful to be the go-to person to a point — until you find you’re totally overwhelmed, exhausted, resentful and in a time crunch,” said Susan Newman, author of “The Book of No: 250 Ways to Say It — And Mean It and Stop People-Pleasing Forever.” “Setting workplace boundaries means you will be doing better work and not spreading yourself all over the lot.” Here’s how to get there: 1. Track your yeses. You can’t set a boundary you don’t know you have, so watch yourself for a week, Newman said. Where do you say “yes”? Do you agree to lunch with that coworker on the day of a major presentation? Do you