Your Happiness Factor

 Tuesday Quotes - Relationships The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships. Anthony Robbins Someone to tell it to is one of the fundamental needs of human beings. Miles Franklin Looking back, I have this to regret, that too often when I loved, I did not say so. Anon The most effective way to achieve right relations with any living thing is to look for the best in it, and then help that best into the fullest expression. Allen J. Boone We are never more discontented with others than when we are discontented with ourselves. Henri Frederic Amiel Each relationship nurtures a strength or weakness within you. Mike Murdock A person isn't who they are during the last conversation you had with them - they're who they've been throughout your whole relationship. Rainer Maria Rilke However good or bad you feel about your relationship, the person you are with at this moment is the "right" person, because he or she is th

Managing emotions - Identifying feelings (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) Time Management - Pinpointing Those Emotional Blocks to Change My last two posts about Time Management ( The Clock Is Ticking! How Good Are You At Time Management) and ( Time Management: Know Where Time Goes - Keep A Log ) said that the first two steps in managing time are to be clear about your purpose and your direction in life and then to know how you spend your time. Knowing those things and completing the first two steps are important. But often time management improvement plans still fail. This is usually because there are underlying emotional issues. Sometimes people feel guilty about spending time on their own interests. For example, what about the rest of the family – shouldn't this time be spent with the children? Or perhaps you might be anxious about saying no to a colleague and refusing to help them at the expense of time to do your own work. This might be because you lack the

  (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) The Mint moth (Pyrausta aurata) on Lemon balm (Melissa officinalis) (Photo credit: Wikipedia )    Lemon Balm – A cup of tea with my lovely Melissa I've started drinking lemon balm tea in afternoons.  Now I've grown lemon balm in my garden for years and always enjoyed the smell. On a summer's day, it is something quite special. But only this year have I taken a couple of fresh sprigs, steeped them in hot water and drunk the results.  Oh, it is lovely. Apparently, the word Balm is an abbreviation of Balsam, the chief of sweet-smelling oils. It is so called from its honeyed sweetness It was highly esteemed by Paracelsus a sixteenth century alchemist of genius. He believed in its ability to revive. Paracelsus, as Manly Hall has said, gained his knowledge "not from long-coated pedagogues but from dervishes in Constantinople, witches, gypsies, and sorcerers, who invoked spirits and captured the rays of the celes

Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia ) Developing Empathy – Playing Emotional Charades I truly believe the greatest gift we can give ourselves and our children is the gift of empathy. That is the ability to see and feel life from someone else's perspective. Empathy is at the root of compassion and positive relationships as well as all good communication. Empathy is behind our ability to listen well and really understand what someone else is trying to tell us. It helps us to to frame and convey our messages to others. But, sadly, not all of us seem blessed with empathy by birth and up bringing. So, what can we do to develop our empathy skills? The following is a little exercise for children taken from a book that now sadly is out of print “Adventures in Guidance: How to Integrate Fun into Your Guidance Program ”. I believe it can easily be adapted for adults who would like to polish up their empathy skills. Emotional

Is shame spoiling your life? Shame is a hard emotion to deal with. Usually it happens when we start to believe something about ourselves that we think others will criticize. Or it can happen because of the way someone else treats us. Sometimes it combines with guilt about something we've done that offends our values. But it can poison our relationships and erode our confidence. Here are some steps you can take to help to confront and overcome shame.   What is this issue? Spend some time alone, or with someone you trust like a coach, really exploring the cause of your sense of shame. It helps sometimes to write things down. Try to sort out the various strands that contribute to your feeling, It may be very complex so take it right down to its constituent parts. Don't rush it – take the time and space you need to make it clear to yourself. Who is causing you to feel shame? Is it you? Is it the way someone else is behaving? Or is it how you t

“My clients are genuinely surprised when we start working together – they think that I am going to tell them what to do, but it’s not like that. They also come in feeling nervous and apprehensive but once we have met a few times, they even start to enjoy it. At the end of the day, it’s a brave move to come to Relate, but for almost everyone, it’s one of the best moves they have made.” This video explains how relationship counselling works If you are facing divorce or separation, dealing with an affair or a major conflict in a relationship, then relationship counselling really can help. Relationship counselling helps you to make the most of your relationships, past, present or future. Working with relationship counsellor can help you, even if you are not currently in a relationship and worried about it.  Many people believe that relationship counselling is only there to help with the major crises in people’s relationships.  But they are also there for th

The Android Emulator home screen. (Photo credit: Wikipedia )  Monday Quotes - Time Management Time = life; therefore, waste your time and waste of your life, or master your time and master your life. Alan Lakein The key is in not spending time, but in investing it. Stephen R. Covey This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it. Ralph Waldo Emerson If you want to make good use of your time, you’ve got to know what’s most important and then give it all you’ve got. Lee Iacocca You’re writing the story of your life one moment at a time. Doc Childre and Howard Martin One cannot manage too many affairs: like pumpkins in the water, one pops up while you try to hold down the other. Chinese Proverb Never let yesterday use up today. Richard H. Nelson Realize that now, in this moment of time, you are creating. You are creating your next moment. That is what’s real. Sara Paddison Until you value yourself, you will not va