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Looks can be deceiving: learning has no expiration date

Looks can be deceiving: learning has no expiration date 

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at

Everyone makes mistakes. If there's someone who performs 'perfectly' and does everything flawlessly as far as you see, believe me, they make mistakes behind the scenes. Or have made a mistake in the past that has thrust them to where they are now. No one is faultless. It's great when someone seems 'perfect' but underneath they might be a mess.

Looks can be deceiving. Never has a phrase been so true and applicable in every situation. You can never tell how someone is feeling. My 'beautiful strangers' belief strikes again. We can never tell how something that we do will affect someone else. It may sink like a grain of sand on a beach, unnoticed. That causes some people to believe that it doesn't matter what they do. It may even strike you, that it doesn't matter. But it does.

Everything you do, at least consciously, defines you as a person. If you stopped doing exactly what you do every day, chaos would rule our lives. So don't feel guilty for taking care of you. You need to prepare yourself to be the best version of yourself for today. Mistakes are a requirement for growth. We all make them, some people are just better at hiding them than others. I am using mistakes as plural because no one makes just one. It'd be great if you could just make one, but we make them to help us grow and hopefully not get dragged down again. But if you do go through a series of the same mistakes, particularly when it comes to love, it's never too late to learn.

The great thing about life is that learning has no expiration date. You are learning every second, even as you are reading this. Everything's changing. Every minute, every second. The changes are so minuet that oftentimes we don't even notice them, but they are forever changing. We associate bad things with change. Some changes are bad but most of them are good. The ones that cause you to grow as a person are good, though you might not think it at the time. But because everything's constantly changing, the fear of it seems foolish.

Another great thing about life is oftentimes, although we have 'official' teachers in school/college/university the best teachers are your family and friends. Your family (hopefully) reinforce the rules of life as they know it, and as we grow we try to rebel from them but those rules tend to stay with us as we grow into the person we are supposed to be. Your friends on the other hand,might help you rebel and are the people we want to be associated with. It's very true, that your friends are the family you choose for yourself and they are undercover teachers.

We don't even realise most of the time when we're changing, it's often a slow process and it's only when you stop and think about it, that you realise how much you have changed, allbeit because of new relationships and/or situations we find ourselves embracing.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at 


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