|As Bob Marley said|
Someone close to me just got the all clear from hospital. While I should have been elated and join her in the living room, I didn’t. Not because I’m not overjoyed, but just because I’d only just come to my laptop to write. There are other things going on in other people’s lives that will make them inattentive to your every move. As I’m sure you understand by now, not everyone can be at your beck and call when you need them. And that’s not because they don’t like you; it’s merely because they have their own lives too that they’re busy with.
People are so preoccupied with themselves that they will hardly notice that thing that you're so worried about. You're you. People don't judge you about what you're worrying about most of the time, they are concerned with how they look or are acting or something. So stop worrying so much! Just be you and don't be so hard on yourself.
I messaged someone, and by the time that they’d replied I’d completely forgotten I’d messaged them in the first place! It made me feel so good. Plus I was going through rather a hard moment at that point in time so it made me smile no end. It made it a lot easier to get through that dark day.
I have good relationships with people around me and my friends from further afield. While I don’t hear much from my friends abroad or in other divisions of the UK that often, it really makes it special when I do and it’s nice to know that they remember they’ve always got my shoulder to cry on. I tend to print off emails, or write down some positive things that they say to me and put it in a special box in the hope that one day when I’m having a rough day I’ll look back and remember that people do care. They might not be around to show it all the time, but when they do I make sure I can recollect it. Because who knows when a bad day might strike? It could be because of a sarcy comment or for no reason at all, but it’s always great to know that you have a back-up plan.
If I, myself, can’t make myself feel better, I know that my friends, be they past or present, can help me.
Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at www.stephcarfrae.blogspot.co.uk and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at http://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkoz1yev_apPjE8XcVrjyjA/videos