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Caring is not needing to please x

Caring is not needing to please x

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at

We care too much about what others think of us because we have little confidence in what we do and who we are. 

You might disagree with me, wearing a mask of confidence, often people pretend they are confident in what they do hoping that confidence will transfer to who they are. That's the wrong order. You have to be Ok and confident in who you are before you can be confident in what you do. Otherwise you're faking. People won't like admitting it. But you, you are strong enough to admit that confidence can't grow this way. 

Confidence grows out of you accepting yourself, all your faults and working them to your benefit. So it's good to strip away every lie you tell yourself and start over. 

You might be stressing that it'll take too long - and you're busy - but wait a minute we all are. It's an ongoing endeavour - to be confident. It doesn't come overnight. Hopefully people will encourage and lift you up, but if they don't - if they tear you down - just think and believe that you are someone to proud of (if you need to repeat it every day to yourself to ingrain it into your soul - do - because your heart will thank you for speaking the truth). 

Don't you know that you are spectacular? Don't disagree with me, you know it's true. 

The confidence will grow like a flower - once you believe in who you are.

Like a flower growing - we don't see it growing with the naked eye - and often it blooms before we notice it - and this is like confidence. What you believe is often more powerful than anything - so get to the point of believing in you - it isn't easy and it does take time - but it's so worth it. 

Confidence springs from believing in yourself. You have to be Ok with you - how you are and who you are - first, and build confidence from that. 

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at 


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