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The past is not yours to change, the future is all that you have

The past is not yours to change, the future is all that you have

Today we have another post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at and I think you will be inspired by Stephanie's first video on YouTube  

Don’t pre-condition things just because that’s the way it turned out last time, don’t write it off this time. If it turned out badly, take a deep breath and try again. You never know what could happen in the future. 

Remember the past is not yours to change, the future is all that you have to alter so don’t dwell on things you can do nothing about. Stay grounded. Don’t worry about the past; it’s gone. Don’t worry about the future; it hasn’t arrived. Just live for every second. No one knows what will happen in the next 5 seconds, let alone tomorrow. 

Worry is just stress you don’t need. I understand why people go through bouts of it, but it’s good to break the habit of worry.

Three reasons to break the habit:

1.       Worrying won’t stop the bad things from happening.

2.       ‘Worrying is not going to sway the situation in either direction’ – Carrie Hope Fletcher

3.       ‘No one’s life runs seamlessly with no rough patches or little bumps and hiccups along the way’ – Carrie Hope Fletcher.

What will be will be regardless how you feel. Just be ready to jump into action at any given time. You will have to be brave and just take risks because why not? 

People who are the happiest are the people who don’t care. Don’t get me wrong, they still care about people who are close to them but they just act fearlessly. To be happy you don’t have to be fearless, you can be happy and content in a life of solitude. Life will go on, the bad will come; it is how you deal with these situations that determine who you are.

 It is how you react in times of crisis; heartache and heart break that make up your personality. It is how you deal with the bad times, which makes you who you are so the bad times have to come to make you into who you are. 

I have been known to act fearlessly, like I don’t care (only caring for those important people to me) and it was only because these people I was with I would likely never see again. And even if I did, we could have a laugh about the way I behaved. It’s funny because there are many times when we are around people we will likely never see again, so if you are feeling it go with it, because you’ll never get this chance again.

Every second that you waste worrying about how it will affect people, is time you could have been doing exactly that thing and you’ll probably find that people are too wrapped up in their own lives to notice what a fool you’re being or whatever it is you fear about.

Stephanie Carfrae, Creative Writing Graduate. Find her blog at and her video introduction at


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