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Staying Positive When Things Hurt!

Staying Positive When Things Hurt!

Here is another inspirational post from contributor, Stephanie Carfrae. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at 

You don’t have to feel A-OK to be positive or feel happy. It’s Ok to get down sometimes. Makes you appreciate the highs when they come!

I was in hospital having just had an operation and I was out four days later! I’m not super-woman; it did hurt for a little while but as soon as I put the pain to the back of my mind and focused on being happy the hurt subsided. I know this can’t work every time. As I’m due to have an operation later this month, I was just lucky it did work for me. 

Just keep reminding yourself that people go through tougher things every day. Helped me anyway. People go through pain every day, and this may not help everyone, but I view it as a weakness if I don’t get through something. I always think and believe that I am stronger than whatever had got me feeling down. I try to smile, even when I don’t feel like it, and I always feel better for at least trying. However it looks on the outside, whether it’s a brave heart situation or not, I always feel like I’ve let myself down if I am not strong. In a way, these are expectations I place on myself, they may be harsh but they work. 

Pain is NOT endless, although it may feel like it. It doesn’t last forever. This may just be a bad bout of it. I know that you can get through it. 

We are all stronger than we think. We don’t often push our own boundaries, but I believe we all have strength buried deep within that we can find if we need it. Often-times you won’t need it, or even remember it’s there, but I believe it’ll come to our aid when or if it’s required. Life can put up roadblocks, and it can seem hard but we’ll get to where we need to go. 

Haven’t you gotten through this kind of pain before? Why is now any different? If you weren't strong enough to make it past this, life would not have presented an issue. Sometimes you just have to be the bigger person and rise above it. 


Plus when you switch your mind to a happy topic the pain you’re feeling may not disappear but it’ll make it easier to get through.

Stephanie Carfrae is a regular contributor. She is a Creative Writing Graduate; you can find her own blog at and I think you will be inspired by Steph's videos on YouTube at 


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