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Ghosting: What It Is and Why It's Unkind

Ghosting: What It Is and Why It's Unkind

Ghosting is the act of ending all communication with someone without explanation. It can happen in any type of relationship, from romantic relationships to friendships to professional relationships.

There are many reasons why people ghost. 

Some people ghost because they are afraid of confrontation. Others do it because they don't want to hurt the other person's feelings. And still others do it because they are simply not interested in the relationship anymore.

Whatever the reason, ghosting is always unkind. It leaves the other person feeling confused, hurt, and rejected. It can also make it difficult for them to move on from the relationship.

Here are some of the reasons why ghosting is unkind:

  • It is disrespectful. When you ghost someone, you are essentially telling them that their feelings are not important to you. 

  • It is hurtful. Ghosting can be very painful for the person who is being ghosted. They may feel confused, rejected, and even abandoned. 

  • It can be difficult to move on. When someone ghosts you, it can be very difficult to move on from the relationship. You may find yourself constantly wondering why they ghosted you, and what you could have done differently. This can make it difficult to focus on other relationships.

If you are considering ghosting someone, please consider having a conversation with them. If you are no longer interested in the relationship, the most respectful thing to do is to tell them. This will give them the opportunity to ask questions and get closure.

An alternative is to send a brief message. If you are not comfortable having a conversation, you can send the other person a brief message explaining that you are no longer want to continue the relationship. This at least doesn't leave the person confused about what has happened. Although if you have been close it would be kind to let them know why.

Ghosting is never the right answer. If you are no longer interested in a relationship, please be respectful and communicate with the other person in a mature and honest way. If you feel the other person has been abusive the report them and block them. Don't just leave them hanging in the air.

Wendy Mason Smith is a Life Coach, Career Coach,
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